Nearly six years ago, I lost my mom to a long-term illness.
I was definitely a mommys girl and I wasnt ready to let her go.
This doesnt mean we are admitting fault for what happened.
Courtney Nuss
When you are in a victim mindset, you are stuck in suffering.
The only way to get out is to take responsibility.
Our past experiences, both good and bad, play a part in shaping our future thinking and behavior.
For me, the first stages of grief caused me to be pretty irritable, selfish, and needy.
I was trying to retreat from all the feelings of sadness and negativity.
While these are common and understandable responses, they are not a justification for poor behavior.
Its better to do some authentic self-reflection than to hurt the people we love continuously.
Consider seeking professional help if you think it might be necessary or beneficial for you.
Were a generation so caught up in blaming and calling everyone else toxic.
But the truth is that sometimes you might be the problem.
Recognizing your own toxic behavior is a part of how to continue to grow as human beings.
Personal growth doesnt stop as soon as we become adults.
Its something that never ends.
I can only imagine how difficult it must be in their shoes and I feel for them.
But honestly, its not always easy to get along with them either.
Naturally, I wanted to be supportive and understanding, so I gave it my best shot.
Watching my words and actions started with one thing, then another, and another.
And believe me, thats no way to live either.
I didnt want them to have to cater to my neediness for the rest of their lives.
Instead, Ive been doing the work necessary to heal while keeping her in my heart.
It is impossible for you to shelter yourself away from those triggers all the time.
Your loved ones should understand that you might need some extra space for a while.
The process is a long and winding road, but it is definitely worth it.
