Don’t play it cool if it actually matters to you.
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Updated 5 years ago,February 14, 2020
Oh, no, no.
I dont want anything for Valentines day!
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All I need is a night with you, you say nonchalantly.Youre the cool girl, right?
Easygoing, chill…
You really believe yourself, too.
But then February 14th rolls around.
You open Instagram for your morning scroll.
You glance over at your sleeping boyfriend and secretly hope hes got something up his sleeve.
As the day of love goes by, three of your coworkers have had flowers delivered to their desks.
You keep hoping youll get the ping from the receptionist, Alissa, theres a package here for you!
Oh my gosh, theyve been dating less time than we have!
At this point, your cheeks are flushed and youre feeling a little resentful.Wheres my gift?
Arent I special enough?
He must not love me that much.
Before you spiral out of control, read on.
Here are three ways to avoid feeling disappointed on Valentines Day:
1.
Be honest about what you want.
It doesnt mean he lovesyouany less.
Again,justbe honestif its a day that is important to you.
Come to a compromise with him.
Remember, honesty is the best policy and theres no right way to do Valentines Day.
Quit comparing your relationship to other relationships.
When you compare yourself to others, youre creating an issue that wasnt there to begin with.
We often play the comparison game when it comes to our relationships.
Wow, she got a diamond necklace for Valentines Day?
Suddenly, were feeling insecure and resentful in our relationships.
When we fall into the comparison spiral, were discounting whats so special and beautiful about our own relationship.
Were overlooking the kind and romantic gestures our partner makes.
So, heres my advice.Stop looking at what everyone else hasandappreciatethe blessings right in front of you.
I know its easier said than done when we have Instagram right at our fingertips.
When you catch yourself feeling resentful and jealous, practice trading it for admiration.
Practice feeling happy for the people youre comparing yourself to.
Then, turn the focus back to whats great in your life.
Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.Read that again.
In this scenario, Id encourage you to release those expectations and appreciate the sweet gesture hes made.
Release the pressure and have fun.
For many of us, Valentines Day carries a lot of emotional weight.
Im still not over it…
Just kidding.
