Trying to have a clear winner in every discussion or disagreement.
Its you and me vs. the problem.
Were on the same team.
kevin laminto
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
Here are some cmomon dealbreakers fromAsk Reddit.
1.Either a lack of sense of humor or an incompatible sense of humor.
I want to be able to laugh at the same stuff together.
2.Disparity between their expectations from you and what theyre prepared to put back into it.
3.Having absolutely no sense of accountability for their actions.
Believe me, it is more common than you think.
4.You dont treat the things I care about seriously.
It shows me you wont even put in the effort to act like you care.
5.Seeing how they speak to other people, especially when they arent around.
6.Not being able to apologize.
Everybody makes mistakes, doesnt matter.
Own up to it and I respect you even more.
7.If you cant have a civilized argument with them.
If small differences at the start of the relationship already turn into screaming, shouting, insulting, etc.
just think about how those important discussions later in the relationship will go…
8.Tests and indirect behavior.
If you want something, tell me.
Im not playing a game just to see if Im worth your attention.
9.Lack of respect for my boundaries.
10.Doesnt let you have time to yourself/their entire life revolves around you to the point that they suffocate you.
11.Talking about exes too much to the line of comparing you two.
Big no no for me.
12.Inflexible mind, or unwilling to learn new things or see other perspectives.
Need someone who is calm in stressful situations.
Life is full of huge problems that will need two to deal with properly.
14.If they dont let you show your emotions.
15.If they have sexist expectations of men.
For instance, being bi-sexual, but acting like guys being bi-sexual is gross and unmasculine.
Or acting like there are man jobs while thinking there are no woman jobs.
Or judging you for being vulnerable or having weaknesses.
No matter how hot you are.
16.Poor work ethic/reliance on other people to provide long term.
17.Trying to have a clear winner in every discussion or disagreement.
Its you and me vs. the problem.
Were on the same team.
Im not yours, youre not mine.
We chose to share our lives together and we have to make that choice again every day.
Lets build a project together, but we each still have our own individual projects to balance.
Trying to pressure me into something I dont want to do.
Its just what they are.
21.Shit-talking their ex/exes on the first couple dates.
Especially if its consistent or they just start talking about it unprompted.
22.If shes constantly flipping out over the smallest things.
23.Lack of honesty really.
Also not being loyal, flirting with everyone, etc.
24.Heavy drug usage Does this need an explanation?
26.Expecting your man to be a mind reader.
But youre an adult.
Say what you want.
27.Lack of compromise early on.
28.On their phone a lot while you are together.
29.If they treat retail or service staff poorly for no reason.
30.Having absolutely no awareness.
