I think we grow up in our twenties.
We work on becoming (and figuring out) who we want to be.
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Updated 4 years ago,May 30, 2021
My twenties have been pretty rocky.
Derrick Freske
I havent figured everything out I dont think any of us have.
We are all works in progress.
Try not to take rejection so personally.
Sometimes two puzzle pieces are perfectly fine puzzle pieces, they just dont fit together.
Not every trial or struggle needs to be a lesson or have an underlying meaning or value.
Sometimes things just happen, and you make it through them and then continue on living.
There is space here for all of our feelings.
None are insignificant or invaluable.
The person who broke your heart cannot be the one to put it back together.
Goodbyes and endings are not inherently bad.
Sometimes people come into your life just as passerbys, and your story becomes better because of them.
You dont need to be defined by your experiences of grief or trauma.
But you could allow them to shape you.
it’s possible for you to use your healing process to bring out the best of you.
you’ve got the option to choose to be defined by how you rise back up.
You may always have a long way to go up the mountain.
You may be climbing for a while.
Your body is your home.
Youll be a whole lot happier when you accept this.
you gotta be the one who gives yourself peace and tells yourself its time to heal.
You are the only one who can give yourselfrealclosure.
The right decision doesnt always feel good or positive in the beginning sometimes it will even bring great sadness.
Know that this doesnt mean it wasnt the right decision.
The sadness is temporary.
Stand by your values.
We all come with baggage, this is inevitable.
But you get to choose how you carry your baggage.
If someone makes you feel like you are difficult to love, move along.
Wait for what your heart needs, not just what it craves at the moment.
If you feel like something is off, listen to your gut.
You will know when you have found what is right for you.
.You dont need to solve everything today.
If you love someone, tell them.
Even if they dont love you back, telling them puts more love into the world.
Well-intentioned love is never wrong.
And we could all use a little more love.
Make your social media feeds a safe place.
If you feel even a little bit insecure when you see someones feed on social media, mute them.
Theres no need to see content that brings you down or makes you question your own worth.
Broken hearts do heal.
The pain is temporary.
Remind yourself of this over and over and over again.
You will mend, and love will come around again.
Anxiety doesnt change the outcome, it just turns a gentle rainstorm into a hurricane.
Some things just dont really turn out okay.
Acceptance is the secret to healing.
Over time, your body will inevitably change and your weight will inevitably fluctuate.
These changes do not affect your value.
Others may not understand your choices or the path you choose to take.
This doesnt mean you are moving in the wrong direction.
Trust yourself and your instincts.
Underneath all the noise, you know what is right for you.
Know when its time to let go, no matter how much it hurts.
Sometimes we have to say a really, really, difficult goodbye so that begin again.
Your worth is not reflected in the ability of others to love you.
When your pain and sadness turns into gratitude for an experience, you know you are beginning to heal.
Avoid comparing yourself to anyone else.
You arent running in the same race.
You arent growing in the same forest.
No one can love you into loving yourself.
But they might be able to show you what love can feel like.
Remember that its not the end of the world.
Its the end ofaworld.
Dont let one ending cloud your view.
Keep your eye out for windows, doors, and new worlds.
When you see a light in others, tell them.
And dont forget to admire the light that shines from within you too.
