We are in a generation where its easy to walk away and just give up.
Treat them the way you did at the start if you dont want to see it end.
When you first start dating someone you are trying really hard to impress them and win them over.
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If you treat them the same way throughout the whole relationship, it wont fade out or get boring.
Dont take them for granted.
You get used to things.
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When you get too used to having someone you stop appreciating what you have.
Do learn to compromise when needs be.
Learn to just say yes without anything following it.
Youll avoid silly fights.
Dont allow jealousy or insecurities to overcome you.
Yes, people are going to hit on them, exes might return and blow up their phone.
You arent the only one who finds them attractive.
Do learn to pick your battles wisely.
There are going to be some things worth fighting for.
Dont ever stop surprising them.
Never stop trying to keep things exciting and keep that flame lit.
It all comes down to thelittle thingsyou do for someone.
Do have realistic expectations of them.
Think about the things you ask them?
Is it realistic or some fantasy you have about what you want the relationship to be.
More than that, are you already doing that?
Dont let feelings and emotions build up.
Take heavy and negative emotions as they come and deal with them right then and there.
Do allow yourself to be vulnerable.
The only way toemotionally connectwith someone fully is to let them into every part of who you are.
The healthiest relationships are with people who understand vulnerability is not a weakness.
Dont put it all on them if youre unhappy with something theyre doing.
If you want them to be more spontaneous are you adding security to the relationship that they can.
Do give each other space when you need it.
Let them have their Saturday is for the boys day without checking on them.
Let her go out as late as she wants to on a Friday with her girlfriends.
As much time as you spend together its important to have a life apart.
Dont rely on them for your happiness.
Your happiness has everything to do with you, you cant put that on them.
Do help them to achieve their goals.
Push them to get to where THEY want.
The best way to achieve anything is having at least one person know you’re able to.
Dont try and change them.
Maybe there are things they can improve on that would make you happy.
But dont try and turn them into someone they arent because you are unhappy with yourself.
If you are trying to change them you dont deserve them.
Do help them to feel secure.
Dont hide things from them.
Be honest with them even if that honesty might hurt.
Dont put them down.
Build them up in every way it’s possible for you to.
Your relationship together is supposed to be the healthiest relationship you each have.
Dont let yourself go just because you have them.
Still, go to the gym.
Still, eat healthy.
Still, take care of yourself.
Getting them wasnt the hard part keeping them will be.
Do build relationships with their family.
Its important to have relationships with their family.
Even the ones you dont like.
And dont ever make them choose between you and them.
Dont hold your past against them.
Someone treating you badly in the past isnt their fault.
Your trust issues have nothing to do with them.
Do meet them halfway.
Its a 50/50 thing.
If you are letting them do more than what you are willing to give, you dont deserve them.
When fighting we wary of the ammo you use.
If they told you something in confidence do not use it in a fight or youll regret it.
Do build them up.
Dont forget big dates.
To women its big deal even when they say it isnt.
Do pretend to be a little bit interested in the things they care about.
You never know, maybe this new thing youve never tried youll like.
Dont belittle their dreams.
Everyone else in the world will doubt them enough they dont need that from you.
Do forgive them and help them to learn.
No one is perfect.
But when they mess up and they come around apologizing.
Help them to learn and move forward from it.
Dont be sneaky and look for something.
Dont look through their phone or computer.
You are going to find something you dont like.
Even the best relationships have things you are going to question if you find it.
And you will find it.
And it wont make you happy.
The fundamental building block for every relationship is trust.
You have to trust that even when you are not there, they are respecting you.
Do tell them you love them every day.
Dont let a day go by without saying those three words.
Dont break their heart.
When you have something and someone good, dont go looking for something better.
Learn to appreciate what you have.
Learn that the best relationships are the ones you dont give up on each other.
