1.Not knowing when to apologize and shut up.
Sometimes it really is your fault, so accept it, own it, and move on.
Dwelling on a point, arguing, or over-explaining does no one any good.
Andrey Novik
In the same line, if your partner messes up, accept the apology and LET IT GO.
I did the dishes three times two weeks ago, you only did them once last week.
You got a new video game this month, why didnt I get something?
Its never going to be completely even, things ebb and flow.
Its not a competition.
The uncomfortable situation you avoid now is far better than whats down the line.
5.Being unhappy before a relationship and going into one thinking it will make you happy.
6.Things fall apart if you dont look after them.
Professor Langdon in Inferno.
7.Not being able to communicate.
you gotta be able to voice when you are hurt without them taking it as an attack.
you should probably be able to hear your partner.
8.Labeling your partner the source of all your happiness and joy.
10.Assuming your partner should know what you want if they love you.
11.Ignoring blazing red flags.
Like holy hell, my ex had some and I gave them the benefit of the doubt.
And I ignored them.
I dumped his ass when it all came to light.
12.You should be putting more work into your relationship at 3-5 years+ rather than just in the beginning.
13.Changing everything about you to fit the relationship.
Eventually, it ruins everything.
14.Focusing on the bad days.
Fairytale relationships are just that.
Dont measure your relationship by something you see in a movie or read in a book.
Dont let the bad days define your relationship.
Revel in the good days.
Enjoy them like they were your last.
Its not give and take.
Instead, every time try giving it your 100%.
Obviously, this is supposed to be mutual and goes both ways.
And this is where communication comes into play.
Live each day with the intention of making your partner proud.
Make each other laugh.
I dont know… whatever floats your boat.
Laugh and laugh often.
Be the reason for their joy.
My favorite sound in the world is the sound of my wife laughing at my jokes.
17.Overthinking and second-guessing everything to the Nth degree.
18.Your SO is not your mother/father.
19.Loving someone in your love language and not theirs.
20.Ive always heard Dont go to bed angry.
Dont take that advice.
Most times, youre both tired and its late.
Sleep on it and continue the conversation the next day.
21.Its not you vs. me, its us vs. the problem.
You are a team.
22.There is no perfect person out there for you.
There are only people who are easier or harder to live with.
23.Support each other in public.
Youre a team, and teammates on winning teams dont trash each other.
24.Dont fight over stupid shit.
Let things slide off your back if they arent really important.
And if your SO insists on escalating fights over silly things, that person should not be your SO.
25.Neglecting their friends in a relationship.
26.Seeing your partner too much or too little.
27.Treating dating as a game youre supposed to win instead of playing just for the fun of it.
Invest in yourself first!
30.Not listening and being defensive.
When your partner is upset about something you do, really listen to them.
Resist the urge to always defend yourself.
Evaluate and make a run at understand how something is making them feel.
