Toxic relationships are FIERCELY addictive, more than any substance I have ever tried.
1.Everything is always your fault.
2.A big red flag is that you feel utterly miserable after spending time with them.
Travis Grossen
A much, much bigger red flag is that you desperately want to spend time with them again.
Toxic relationships are FIERCELY addictive, more than any substance I have ever tried.
3.Thinking to yourself, No he/she wouldnt be doing this on purpose to me, one too many times.
4.You are being forced to make decisions that you are uncomfortable with.
Or you feel like someone is always pushing you to make rushed decisions.
6.Anybody who forcefully attempts to assert their trustworthiness, isnt.
Pay attention to the feelings you get around other people.
8.You filter everything you say to avoid fights.
9.The feeling of walking on eggshells.
10.If someone is discouraging you from talking to or hanging out with your friends and family.
11.Aggressiveness/anger/conversation steering at the very beginning of a discussion that they dont want to have.
The conversation will never occur, there is always something that stops or diverts it, endlessly.
12.Being accused of behavior that was originally exhibited by the accusing party.
They then go about telling mutual acquaintances that you are hostile.
14.Important information is missing.
There is a reason they dont want you to have it.
I once read, verbatim, Apologies without change are manipulation.
16.When you have to keep assuring someone that you are not manipulating them.
Manipulators always accuse others of being manipulative.
19.Manipulators are extremely jealous and needy usually narcissist types.
And a lot of manipulative people will start fights and argue for no reason.
About who is right.
21.Youre being manipulated when the essential message is: Be reasonable and do thingsmyway.
23.You never get the last word.
24.Someone behaving differently in public vs in private.
25.Making you stay home instead of going out.
26.They are always just joking.
27.They make your problems feel small.
28.They constantly make you prove yourself.
29.If they do something that hurt you and you end up apologizing instead.
Basically, if they make you feel bad for their actions.
30.Usually you dont really realize it.
When other people start telling you theres a problem thats when you finally realize.
Thats what it took for me.
When you look back later it’s possible for you to finally see what everyone else saw.
