I hope you let go of trying to control everything.
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Updated 4 years ago,September 20, 2021
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The idea that vulnerability and softness are weaknesses.
Flora Westbrook
I hope you stop letting your trauma hold you back from saying the things you are afraid to say.
I hope you let go of the fear of displaying your emotions.
Understand that your vulnerability is your greatest strength.
Giving up control takes courage.
I hope you let go of trying to control everything.
The only thing undoubtedly within your power is the relationship you have with yourself.
Anything and anyone beyond that is always out of your control.
Life is unpredictable and messy, as are people.
Live a life you’re free to enjoy, even when things veer off from your preferred direction.
Cherish people for who they are when those people are good to you.
People who are toxic to you.
Reiteration is necessary when it comes to this one.
I will say it again: let go of people who bring toxicity into your life!
Yes, that includes the eternal on/off almost-relationship.
It includes the one-sided friendship youve been putting up with for years.
It includes the friend who uses you as their therapist.
It includes anybody who exhausts your mental and emotional well-being and drains you of your positive energy.
That person you cannot help but love, no matter how many times theyve hurt you.
Maybe, in the beginning, they made you feel understood and they made you feel seen.
But what are they making you feel now?
I hope you let go of the excuses you make for other people.
Its cliche, but its true.
The more excuses you have to make for people, the less likely it is that they will change.
Your true love doesnt necessarily have to be another person.
Its okay if the love of your life is your career or your passion or love for something.
Its okay if seeing the world is what you dedicate yourself to and love the most.
Its okay if its a business youve dreamed about your whole life of starting.
To each their own.
The belief that someone else can make you happy.
Your happiness shouldnt be dependent upon another individual, your happiness should be reached from within.
Anyone else can only add on to your happiness, not be responsible for it.
Your happiness is your responsibility, and your responsibility only.
You wont ever have peace within a relationship if its the place you keep going to to find it.
I hope you let go of trying to be someone elses idea of perfect.
Stop trying to live up to other peoples expectations, this life is yours, not anyone elses.
Be your own ideal.
The only perfect that matters is yours.
Its okay to let go of ideals you no longer hold.
Beliefs, values, priorities, goals, and objectives can change.
You may owe them a lot, but never that.
You are at complete liberty to change your course.
Growth is natural with age, and with growth comes a change of perspective.
You are allowed to release yourself from obligations to your past self and honor who you are today.
Live life adhering to your own set of values and principles, and never feel guilty about your beliefs.
Believe what you believe in, and dont in what you dont.
Work towards accomplishing your goals, even if your parents, or even you, expected very differently.
Fuck it, be selfish.
There, I said it, live selfishly.
Take care of yourself first, do what makes you happy, act accordingly to your own benefit.
Life is too short to walk on eggshells or bend yourself backward trying to yo others.
I hope you learn to let go of societys timeline for success.
Seriously, let go of the idea that you are not where you should be by now.
Stop comparing where youre at in life to where others around you are.
Life is not some checklist you must follow from A-Z; life isnt a checklist at all.
Let life take its natural course.
Fuck what society has to say about it.
You are exactly where you should be.
No one is going to believe in you as much as you will if you would just let yourself.
Take out the word cant and wont from your vocabulary when it comes to your own capabilities and worth.
I hope you learn to let go of self-loathing.
Youre 30, babe.
Make this your year of self-love.
Go into this decade of your life with a light heart.
Be gentle with yourself.
Be kind in how you think about yourself.
Forgive yourself for the mistakes youve made and for the destructive behaviors that brought you pain.
Remember youre human and being human means being imperfect.
Theres nothing you should cherish more than the relationship you have with yourself.
Dont allow that relationship to become a toxic one because you cant stop putting yourself down.
Seriously, stop focusing on all the ways in which you dont feel good enough.
Youre feeding yourself a false narrative by picking yourself apart.
Believe that this person you are has nothing to feel insecure about.
I hope you learn to let go of comparing yourself to others.
This is a recipe for perpetual dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
Focus on living a genuinely happy life you dont have to fake.
I hope you let go of hating your body.
Yes, you youre beautiful.
Fuck what Instagram or any magazine you pick up may be telling you.
Fuck what anyone else may have to say about your body.
Your body is perfect.
Your body isyourbody, and its the only one you have the home of your soul.
I hope you learn to let go of destructive behaviors.
I hope you learn to let these go.
I hope you learn to let go of your need to be impulsive.
I hope you learn to slow down and think critically before reacting to something or diving into something.
I hope you let go of your sense of entitlement and learn to take accountability in life.
Sometimes the toxic person is you.
Your life is in your hands, and your hands, only.
Stop waiting for things to fall into your lap when you arent putting in the work for it.
That includes professional success, success in love, and success with your mental well-being.
I hope you let go of the idea of the perfect moment.
I hope you stop thinking youre not ready.
Stop letting fear prevent you from acting on your desire to do something.
Jump into the unknown, even if you dont feel ready you will never feel ready.
Stop looking out your window waiting for the stars to align, because they may never will.
Start the business youve always dreamed of starting.
Ask out that guy you cant stop thinking about.
Say yes to the things you desire.
I hope you learn to let go of your fear of being happy.
Maybe feeling joy is strange to you because youve never really known it.
Maybe you dont think you deserve it.
Maybe youve been through so much heartache that you have a difficult time believing in happiness.
Let go of that fear, and simply let yourself feel it.
Happiness is real, and it can be something that sticks
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Be honest with yourself about why youre afraid of love and afraid of intimacy.
Take the risk and let yourself be vulnerable.
Dont let past pain or trauma from former relationships dictate how you live your life now.
I hope you learn to let go of your pride.
I hope you dont let your pride be the reason you lose something or someone important to you.
I hope you learn to let go of the apologies you never received.
Stop giving people who hurt you any energy at all.
Dont think about them.
Dont dwell on the past.
Dont preoccupy yourself with thoughts about all the ways you were wronged and the apologies you never received.
You deserve to move on and to truly do so, you must stop letting old wounds fester.
Live a life that isnt weighed down by the tragedies of your past.
Let go of the idea that there is anything wrong with solitude.
I do not say lonely at least, not all the time but essentially, and finally, alone.
I hope you learn how to be content with your own company.
Value the time you spend alone and the moments of introspection you are able to enjoy.
Give yourself the opportunity to get to know yourself as well as you strive to get to know others.
The idea that you should follow your brain over your heart.
Its simple: follow your heart, always.
Your relationship isnt something that belongs to you, but something you share with another person.
Stop spending so much time worrying about what you may lose and actually enjoying what you have.
These ugly emotions will only push away the person you love and erode your connection.
The false narrative you were fed.
You cant control when your trauma resurfaces, but you could decide to stop consciously feeding into the cycle.
Take the time to know and be sure of yourself.
I hope you leave the job you hate.
I hope you stop being afraid of pursuing your real passions.
Youre never too old for anything, and that includes starting over.
Dont let a job you loathe and dont care for run you ragged; stop letting it kill you.
Take some serious time to consider what you really want to be doing and plan for it.
I hope you truly start living and step outside of your comfort zone.
I hope you flourish seeing yourself grow doing so.
