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Updated 8 years ago,July 20, 2017
1.
He spiked my drink himself so he could save me and show me how caring he was.
I once was out with friends and my drink was spiked.
Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz
Turns out he spiked my drink himself so he could save me and show me how caring he was.
Our friend did not think it was cool, and told me what happened.
This dude also laced the one-hitter we were using with something that same night.
Illustration by Daniella Urdinlaiz
I could have died, but he really thought he was being a genius pick up artist.
Keep your eyes on your drink and trust your instincts.
sweetrhymepurereason
2.
I ended up breaking up with him and getting a restraining order after he threatened to shoot me.
I ended up breaking up with him and getting a restraining order after he threatened to shoot me.
Not saying you shouldnt give people a chance, but you should always stay wary.
HoosierHasBeen
3.
I saw him probably 2-3 times a week at different shows/hangouts but we never exchanged a word.
Someone introduced us once but then we both moved on.
I told him to get lost (kindly at first ) then more forcefully.
I let my partner know that this guy knew where we lived and worked so we should be careful.
It was stressful but I outed him to our mutual friend and it died down.
notlennybelardo
4.
Had a friend who couldnt understand why I didnt want to date him.
He even pulled the women want assholes who abuse them card.
Not sure how he didnt notice all the assholes I also didnt want to date.
Sevarra
5.
I actually dated a nice guy once and he was so nice that he cheated on me 14 times.
ValkyriesValientVex
6.
He was charged with everything from stalking to sexual harassment.
This is going to be disturbing, and Im still wrapping my mind around it myself.
My nice guy was a guy who met me in a sibling loss group after my twin died.
He claimed to be married, he lived several states away.
We were never flirtatious or romantic.
I have very little interest in men, and I made this clear.
Without saying too much, I had a fairly sizable following for comedy-ish posts.
The next night the janitor was harsh and tetchy with me.
The next morning I got another service response for my work gear.
I leave hours before then.
The hairs on my arms were up, thats for damn sure.
I asked him if I could get cleared to take my devices home that night.
The next morning (meaning just hours after Id gone home) I got an emergency meeting notification.
When theres an emergency at work, its NOW.
The janitor had left them.
and had multiple protection orders against him in his home area.
He had been stealing my devices after I went home and trying to get into them.
His language and tactics made it clear he thought he owned me and I was just being stubborn.
The wife and child were his sister and his sisters child.
SuggestiveDetective
7.
He went ballistic and told me he couldnt be with a girl who had no respect for herself.
Met this guy online through one of my friends.
He became obsessed with me and wanted to call every night before he went to bed.
He told me I would be the perfect wife and that we should have 3 kids.
We had been talking for maybe two weeks.
He went ballistic and told me he couldnt be with a girl who had no respect for herself.
We werent even dating, but he broke up with me on my birthday.
wanderluststricken
8.
I was potentially interested in an acquaintance.
SalamandrAttackForce
9.
You sit down and he sits just a little too close to you.
You get up and he follows like a puppy.
He tried so hard, I felt so bad.
I tried to tell him… hell…hemetmy boyfriend several times.
But he kept trying.
Minus the incel-punch in shit.
It was painful to watch and more painful to experience.
If we were in middle school, hed be the one with the rolling backpack who runs everywhere.
All he was missing was a katana.
You sit down and he sits just a little too close to you.
You get up and he follows like a puppy.
Well, no, because everyone loves puppies.
But he follows, just a little too close.
He walks you to the bathroom.
He tries to carry everything for youandhold the doorandtalk sweet, failing on all counts.
Anything he overheard you mentioning, hed have a go at insert himself, like Michael Scott.
If he knew nothing about it, hed tangentially (and quickly!)
steer the conversation into one of his interests.
And he would call/text/email over and over and over: I hope he had an unlimited plan.
The cringiest thing to happen was at a talent show.
I say no, its okay, Ill just tell the sound guy to skip the duet.
NiceGuy of course is not okay with this and jumps up to run to the sound guy for me.
OriginalGuy comes to the rescue and says he has regained his courage and will go on with the show.
Long story short, I wind up singing a romantic duet withbothOriginalGuy and NiceGuyat the same time.
Ive probably never felt as uncomfortable on stage.
I escaped a few months later by switching states and changing my phone number.
spottedpaws
10.
Of course I didnt tell him anything but then things got weirder.
I said no on multiple occasions and he just would not take it.
And you only dont like me because Id actually treat you right.
After that we didnt talk for months and grew apart over the years.
hardc0renach0s
11.
Id come up from the water & his dick would be out.
Hed be grinning wildly at me & shaking it.
Chad was 16 with braces, acne, horrid teeth.
We take care of you, dont we?
Gross, I never did it.
Sometimes we would have fun playing basketball, or going swimming.
ficcionella
12.
Hed message me every 5 minutes and insist on calling each night.
I met a guy, lets call him Dan (because thats his name), on Facebook.
We were both 23.
I had PTSD at the time from a car wreck, and liked the distraction of Dans conversations.
When I got home, I agreed to go on a date with him to get hot chocolate.
He insisted the only day that worked was the day Id arrived home, after a 28-hour flight.
I agreed, but said it would have to be short.
After that, hed message me every 5 minutes and insist on calling each night.
A week later I had to get surgery on my shoulder.
My mum couldnt take me to the hospital, so he said hed give me a lift.
When I was there, I kept saying hed better go, and he just…lingered.
HE WOULDNT LEAVE THE CUBICLE.
I dont know what Id do if I lost you.
Youre the very best thing thats ever happened to me, and I love you so much.
Dan showed up at the hospital in the morning, and I just pretended to be asleep.
He stayed for 4 hours.
Each time the nurse came in I just pretended to be out of it, then pass back out.
Hed wait outside my house for hours for weeks afterwards.
Id physically hung out with him twice.
He created fake Facebook profiles using a (badly) Photoshopped photo of us together.
Dan, you were a bloody creep.
ottersrus
13.
I had a new job I was a data-entry monkey and was just getting used to the company.
One day in the cafeteria a guy introduced himself to me.
He seemed pretty nice, honestly.
I think we could have been good friends.
Anyway, we had this Skype-pop in program to talk to each other.
The first time he chatted me I chatted back for a few minutes.
But he started chatting me all the time.
Like, all the time.
He wouldnt take no for an answer.
If I ignored him he would wait maybe 15 minutes and send me another message.
He also started offering me really expensive teasI think because in the cafeteria I had said I liked tea.
Thats what I had been there to get.
He called us the tea club.
Oh, and he would say off-putting things about like, how pretty and talented I was.
You know, the basics.
Most of them were him asking for me to chat and me ignoring him.
It turns out they already had several similar complaints, so he was fired the next week.
I hope you find the tea-girl for you.
But it wasnt me, and I needed you to accept that.
fireflyclass03K64
14. sketchyfigurine
15.
He just fucking went for the kiss.
He kissed me and when I pushed him and said wtf!!!!
He said there aint no such thing as free lunch!
Never saw him again.
freelanceredditor
16.
He said you bitch.
Then walked away and in a quieter voice muttered lying sluts.
I said thanks, theyre actually contacts.
His whole demeanor changed.
He said you bitch.
ringo24601
17.
He flipped out and was screaming just take my help and like me for once, you standoffish bitch.
Worked at Macys and at the time I was riding a moped.
Grimcupcake
18.
He had hidden things all over my house.
Had (what I thought was) a friend who lived in my building.
Did normal friend things.
Told him I forgot I needed to get up early and asked him to leave earlier than planned.
My only guess was so he had an excuse to come back, like inSeinfeld?
But it was a whole box of things.
DezzlieBear
19.
Youre not a nice guy if you get angry at me for rejecting you.
He kept trying to tell me about how he was a nice guy and wouldnt leave me alone.
Youre not a nice guy if you get angry at me for rejecting you.
funds-four-loko
20.
I was portrayed as a shallow, horrible bitch who wouldnt give the sweet, nice guy a chance.
Long story shorta couple of weeks later, I go to a comedy show on campus.
Show starts, everythings normal, and then its Noahs set.
This went on for twenty minutes.
I couldnt leave, because the theater had a rule where you could only leave between sets.
Audience reception was mixed but generally uncomfortable.
MiniPlesiosaur
21.
11 years ago, I met him online, he seemed really nice and wed chat through MSN.
When I finally met him I found out why.
I wasnt interested in a relationship.
Id made that clear before once Id said it again in person he turned into this complete twat.
I shit you not.
I told him he was deluded and not to contact me again.
Miloreh1988
22.
He blocked me from getting into my car.
Went on a date with a guy I met through OKCupid.
It was a very nice dinner date, we had a lot in common.
We ended up walking around and talking for a couple of hours after dinner.
We are saying our goodbyes and I reach for my car door.
He stands in front of it, saying, no, the date isnt over.
He has a smile on his face, so I think he is joking.
I laugh, then reach around for the door again.
I try a second time, this time attempting to physically move him out of the way.
He still doesnt move.
We are still talking, since I figure I dont want to upset him.
His response was dismissive, saying I could just drink some coffee in the morning.
After about 15 minutes, hefinallymoves out of the way and I go home.
I now refuse to let first dates walk me to my car.
Worst part was that it really was a very pleasant date, one of my better OKCupid dates.
I still wonder what I did wrong.
Did he want to hook up and thought preventing me from leaving was akin to asking me?
Did he not feel confident I really did want a second date?
kayoss_
23.
He grabbed the shot out of my hand and walked away with it.
Right after the handed me the shot my boyfriend walked.by and asked me a quick question.
chipissalsa
24.
He started screaming at me, calling me a slut and grabbed my arm really hard.
So one of these guys that I dont know offered to buy me a drink.
So eventually I agreed.
Later that night when the bar closed, the group split up and everyone headed home.
We were about five people going in the same direction, him included.
I remember asking him:
Oh, do you live by the stadium as well?
Or do you live even further away?
Like full on lost control.
He started screaming at me, calling me a slut and grabbed my arm really hard.
I still had a bruise on my arm the following day.
Fuck that guy (not in the literal sense).
future_here_I_com
25.
I cant stand fucking nice guys!
Then he started ranting about how much he hates Mexican girls because we give white guys no play.
Thank god Manny…thank god!
Oh yeah the Big Pun lookalike grown man that was friends with my high school boyfriends older brother.
This guy was literally like 400 lbs.
of big scary cholo so of course no one said anything to him.
I left in tears.
I cant stand fucking nice guys!
Kinda_cunty
26.
He would follow me around the city after I begged him to leave me alone.
He didnt go to my uni.
Would turn up at random events that I went to.
Would just stand there staring at me in the crowd.
Tried to convince me to come to his house for a surprise.
I didnt go obviously but found out he spent all day making a fancy lobster dinner.
Raged at me because I didnt come.
Bought expensive tickets to the opera as a surprise.
Again raged when I said I wasnt interested.
I had to get him banned from the library for stalking me.
Lets call him Tony.
Tony was That Nerd.
you know the one.
He would come over all the time.
and find me at work in the library and just.
start talking to me.
like I understand social awkwardness, but this was too much.
Anyway,
Tony insulted my roommate and acted like she couldnt understand physics because she was a girl.
belittled us for being English Majors.
He asks me out.
takes his fedora off, because yes, Tony bro actually wore a fedora.
I thought that was a myth.
He instantly turns to my friend what about you, then?
I…dont even know you?
Kenna was better than me with confrontation.
She pointed at Matt Murdock getting his face beat in.
Hedgiwithapen
28.
He told everyone who would listen I was a whore.
His name is Dillon.
He dropped out of college.
Im graduating with two degrees.
He still messages me every now and then asking me to run away with him and get married.
crunchwrapsubpar
29.
He was my friends housemate and we all hung out as a trio watching movies and talking about life.
I never hung out with him one on one; it just seemed like the trio was better.
I also never flirted with him.
I freaked out since he wouldnt let me leave and slipped away.
I called him out on his shit.
He responded with figures.
Guess I never had a chance anyway.
I blocked and unfriended him.
Every time I saw him after that I pretended he didnt exist and he looked very hurt.
If hed asked me on a date I might have been receptive.
But he jumped from 0 to 100 and no.
gropytentacle
30.
When I was in junior high there was this new kid.
I was shocked by this, but I still tried to be friends with him.
Nothing happened, and he had been really nice.
For a little after that I saw him in high school, but I never talked to him again.
adelgirl
31.
Then proceeded to ask me for friends with benefits he was clearly just looking to get laid.
Basically considered himself a godsend to women.
