When they want to fight remain calm and agree with them.
1.Stare an their forehead just between and slightly above the eye-line while talking to someone.
2.When they want to fight remain calm and agree with them.
Jeremy Bishop
3.I have a nervous habit of acting like everything is normal when its not.
I dont do it to fuck with people intentionally but it does have that effect.
People in general are self-observing and want to make sense of their own actions.
By helping you, subconsciously they will slowly change their opinion of you from negative to positive.
If someone is yelling?
Ask them if they want sand.
Are they in an uncomfortable situation?
Ask if they want sand.
Comfort them, then say in a calm voice, Do you want some sand?
7.Whenever someone is insulting me, I just agree with them:
Hey youre really ugly.
They never know what to do.
8.Reverse psychology… my sister takes my stuff away, I dont complain or pretend not to notice.
She returns it to me in less than a minute.
9.Pretend youre terrible at lying so when you really need to lie people believe your telling the truth.
10.When in a position of power, offer the person under you a choice of responsibility.
I worked as a camp counselor and this method worked wonders.
11.Give someone a sincere compliment during an argument.
If they are decent people, Itll throw them off guard.
They will then feel inclined to be more pliable.
Smile at them and pat the seat next to you.
I know you are smart enough to understand that it is X.
Its hard to explain exactly why this works but I use this tactic and it usually shuts people down.
I guess because they feel like if they keep trying to argue Y they will look stupid.
Incredibly effective on the phone.
15.Does someone at work treat you as if youre beneath them?
Nothing better than walking by the person never making eye contact, ignoring any hellos from said person.
This does not mean stare at the floor or wall, just stare directly ahead as you pass them.
Then later, when you pass them in the hallway, you initiate the hello.
You should have said hello.
Completely knocks said person down a peg or two.
17.I use the door-in-the-face trick a lot with my wife.
Could you make me a 5-course dinner tonight?
How about some homemade mac and cheese?
18.I work at a drive through and I get a lot of mumblers.
Asking to speak up doesnt work but if you repeat their order back incorrectly everyones diction and volume improves.
19.While arguing with someone smirk and shake your head, or chuckle.
Drives people absolutely bonkers.
20.If someone is staring at you, look at their shoes.
I dont know why, but this worked for me, for some reason they look away.
Whenever they try and say something back, just give them that youre proving my point look.
Then they stop talking and pout for a while.
22.Everything people say about you is true.
23.If youre in an argument with someone, dont yell.
Instead, speak quietly and softly.
This will often calm them down.
25.When talking to someone face-to-face, randomly look over their shoulder with a growing look of horror.
Ignore any expressions of puzzlement.
26.If youre annoyed that someone is staring at you stare back.
Hold eye contact and dont let go.
If theyre still staring even after thisshoot them a kiss, usually gets them to look away.
They will babble on, far more than they want to.
28.Laughing at a bully who is obviously all bark and no bite.
Had a female friend in high school getting bullied by a boy who was significantly smaller than she was.
Laugh harder than youve ever laughed before.
Make yourself cry laughing if it’s possible for you to, and watch what happens.
By golly she took my advice and laughed in his face the next time he verbally attacked her.
She was with another friend, and the friend joined in on the laughter.
His friends were originally laughing with him, but after only about a minute of this they stopped him.
Dude, theyre laughing at you.
This is getting awkward.
Just stop and leave it alone…
Vast majority of the time, grown ass adults will start singing Im a little teapot.
30.One of my bosses feels the need to contradict anything I say, no matter how benign.
She gets in moods, should probably see a therapist.
Sure enough shell contradict what I say.
So I do it again, agreeing with her new statement.
We can go on like this for a long time.
She argues with herself.
It doesnt help anything but I find it amusing.
31.I use this trick all the time when someone is yelling at me over the phone.
Dont ignore them and speak when spoken to but when they are talking, nothing.
No uh-huhs, no mmms, no I see.
Deprive them of all subconscious feedback.
Best way to shut someone up without being rude.
Semiotics professor taught it to me.
I didnt yell at them or scold them, just said we dont speak like that to each other.
Then made it an absolute priority to greet them at the door and ask how their day was going.
Sometimes when a person acts out against you, its because they are hurt.
Show them you care and you may change their entire outlook.
33.Telling people nice socks even when theyre not visible.
