Limerence is used to describe obsession and longing for another person, often unreciprocated.
Limerence is used to describe obsession and longing for another person, often unreciprocated.
Its a state of utterinfatuationand fantasy, and results in emotionally-dependent, unhealthy relationships and mindsets.
Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind (2004) | IMDb
Because true love takes work, commitment, and accepting imperfection.
This cannot happen in limerence.
Not just the painful ones;allof them.
Throughout the movie, there are various instances of limerence.
After Clementine smiles at Joel, he immediately feels drawn to her.
Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?
Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind (2004) | IMDb
wonders Joel, scribbling in his notebook.
But Im just a fucked-up girl whos looking for my own peace of mind.
Dont assign me yours.
500 Days Of Summer (2009) | IMDb
Here, Clementine describes what its like to be the person who is the object of anothers limerence.
And this isexactlywhy limerence is so toxic: that is too much pressure to put on another person.
People are just people, even the ones we fall in love with.
New Moon (2009) | IMDb
No one can complete any other person.
We must be whole on our own.
Tom pines after Summer for weeks until they eventually begin asituationshipof sorts.
This doesnt stop Tom from reading into every single sign that Summer may truly love Tom back, though.
He convinces himself she just needs time to let her walls down and fully let him in.
Tom thinks Summer just holding back due to her trust issues.
He doesnt understand how they couldntnotbe endgame with all of their mutual interests, sex, and fun.
In one montage, Tom looks back at their situationship with a different lens: reality.
He finally realizes those signs he clung to were that of fantasy and nothing more.
Her(2013)
Heris a science fiction and romance written, directed, and co-produced by Spike Jonze.
Samantha is actually an A.I.
She experiences frequent panic attacks, periods emotional vacancy, and ultimately becomes a shell of herself without him.
