You live in the past.
And for some people, this role ends up being the black sheep.
Or,according to the Family Systems Theory, the identified patient.
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The black sheep is a family member who has been designated as the odd one out.
Because of this, the black sheep often feels out of place and misunderstood within their family.
Later on, this can lead to interpersonal problems in the black sheeps non-familial relationships.
You struggle with low self-worth.
If you are the black sheep of your family, you most likely have low self-esteem as well.
This makes enough sense.
After all, while you were growing up, you learned that who you were was not enough.
You still hold onto that belief today.
It is an emotional scar, and one that runs deep.
Youre deeply sensitive to rejection.
You might even haverejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), or an extreme reaction to feelings of rejection.
Connection and positive interactions within close relationships arecore human needs.
And to have those needs be neglected by your own family members?
You have major trust issues.
Trust does not come easily to you.
You expect everyone to leave you behind, so you prefer not to get too close to anyone.
You keep others at an arms length as a means of self-preservation and self-protection.
You live in the past.
You just cant seem to allow yourself to move on from your past.
Instead, you ruminate on it.
Live in it even.
You live in the past because you think if you revisit the hurt enough, you might resolve it.
Find a different conclusion maybe.
But the truth of the matter is that you cannot change what has already happened.
The past will always remain out of your reach.
However, you’re able to accept what happened.
This is the first step to letting go and healing.
This is how you break free.
