Saying because I said so.
My dad and mom did this to me and I hated it.
So now with my daughter, she knows exactly why I say no to something.
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Updated 8 years ago,June 29, 2017
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Comparing them to other kids.
Comparing your kids to other kids.
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IAMSomewhatHappy
2.
Comparing them to their siblings.
Comparing siblings to each other.
My brother was always the problem child and I was the smart one.
My parents told us this all the time.
It made me a panicky, anxious perfectionist.
yo, dont compare your kids to one another.
It sucks for both the bad kid and the good one.
alderaanirebel
3.
When I was your age…
When I was your age….
TomathanStrix
4.
Because I said so.
outerdrive313
5.
Because Im the parent.
Using because Im the parent as reasoning for absolutely anything and everything.
Parents kindly use logical reasoning with your children.
Telling them they ruined the parents life.
My mother was famous for telling us how badly we ruined her life.
DO NOT FUCKING DO THIS.
It took me well past my teenage years to realize that I am NOT a burden to my family.
She will have very little to do with my new family because of it.
oohrosie
7.
Using food as a reward.
Using food as a reward.
GiveHerTheWorks
8.
Never saying no because it might harm them.
Lately Ive heard about people never saying no to their child because it might harm them.
BarbDwyer
9.
Solving problems for them rather than teaching them how to solve problems.
Solving problems for your children rather than teaching solutions and practical skills.
MarioMakerBrett
10.
Trying to be their best friend.
Trying to be friends with your kids.
She_Likes_Cloth
11.
Giving them no privacy.
Giving children no privacy.
It honestly fucks with kids mental health when someone knows literally every small thing they do.
At least it has for me.
TryingToBeReallyCool
12.
Not allowing them to fail.
Not allowing your kids to fail.
Sometimes, kids need to fail at something to learn.
MoreWineForMeIn2017
13. blueeyesredlipstick
14.
Making threats of punishment and then not following through.
Making threats of punishment and then not following through.
Undermining your credibility is a great way to get them to never pay any attention to you.
If you have no intention of following through with punishment, dont make the threat.
LagiacrusHunter
15.
Using them as a tool to inflict emotional pain on their partner.
Withholding love and affection because it makes YOU feel awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassed.
Using your kid as a tool to inflict emotional pain on your partner.
Being a parent is hard.
Dont take it out on your kids.
ksozay
16.
Using the TV to educate them instead of doing it themselves.
Using the TV to educate your child instead of doing it yourself.
Never respecting your child private life under any circumstances.
rageexflz
17.
Putting too much emphasis on education and not enough on social skills.
Putting too much emphasis on education and not enough on developing proper social skills.
There must be a balance.
Nomeia
18.
Not understanding that kids have their own stresses, too.
Understanding that your kids have their own stresses too, even if you dont know of them all.
EmmilyLWood
19.
Ignoring bad behavior until they finally snap and scream at them.
I see so many parents do this.
MyOversoul
20.
Maybe its just my area (New England suburbs), but helicopter parenting is way too popular.
Personally, I think kids should be allowed to take part in normal childhood experiences.
My wife and I allow tackle football and hockey.
My 6-year-old will be doing both this year.
We built a tree house about a month ago and the boys get plenty of use out of that.
My two-year-old is a climber and he is able to climb up.
We have a trampoline.
My 6-year-old is learning to skateboard.
Hes out there every day on his ramp and is getting pretty good.
Ill probably take him to the skate park over the summer.
I wouldnt hand my toddler a shot gun.
I dont allow the kids to play with fireworks or drive the car on the highway.
I just dont restrict everyday childhood experiences that everyone grew up doing.
They think before they act and make a judgment call.
I think thats probably important as they get older and have to make more judgment calls on their own.
It would be nice if we could wrap kids in bubbles but we cant.
I had a good friend die due to a childhood accident involving a rope swing.
Accidents happen and are unavoidable.
Shostakovich22
21.
Not nurturing their interests because they dont understand them.
Anyway, the point of this story is I wish growing up I had parents who nurtured my interests.
That shit hit me right in feels.
Z0MBGief
22.
Treating them like idiots.
Treating them like idiots and only adhering to recommended path of development.
Thus he was way ahead in math for ~3 years, giving him time to keep studying way ahead.
Nezzatic
23.
Having more kids to save the marriage.
Having more kids to save the parents failing relationship.
coolbriezz357
24.
Not following through with consequences.
Not following through with consequences.
Not parenting as a team.
GreasyPorkGoodness
25.
Teaching them how to be successful rather than how to be good people.
Id say teaching them that they have to be successful.
Better to teach them how to be good people.
OsutorariaOssan
26.
Sheltering them from the real world.
Too much sheltering from the real world.
Especially with extremely religious parents.
Imtheguyman
27.
Doing everything for them.
Doing everything for your kid.
YOUR 10-YEAR-OLD SHOULD BE ABLE TO DRESS HIMSELF!
This makes for kids who cannot problem solve.
Ive had kids in school not have a chair at their desk so they just stand there.
They cannot figure out how to get a chair to sit in.
This is not to be confused with laziness.
They honestly cannot solve simple problems.
mouse987
28.
Using digital screens as a babysitter.
Too many digital screens are shoved in front of kids and babies faces these days.
Interact with your damn kid.
Teach them table manners.
Teach them colors or food names.
Teach them math on how to add up prices and do tip calculations.
My dad would make us figure out how to do tips in our heads for the waitress.
Also make your kid try new foods chicken fingers and fries shouldnt be the only thing theyre eating.
fauxxfoxx
29.
Yelling at them and hitting them, then expecting trust and respect.
bag_of_grapes
30.
Still using baby talk when the kid is old enough to speak complicated words.
Baby talk, or simplifying speech to your children.
Kids learn an entire language but big words are supposed to be too difficult?
I never understood that mentality.
(Baby talk used to approximate baby pronunciation).
My wife stopped baby talking and took it further than I ever could have.
All vocabulary words my kids knew are because of my amazing wife.
All I did was ask for no more speaking down to the kids.
She just did her amazing mother thing and, of course, was (and is) amazing.
Shalnar
31.
Not apologizing when they make a mistake.
Not apologizing when you make a mistake for fear that it will undermine you as an authority figure.
Bondedas
32.
Using embarrassment as a punishment.
Using embarrassment as a punishment.
Thats how people end up getting picked on.
red498cp_
33.
Denying them food as punishment.
In some how to train your kid books it says deny food to make them listen.
If thats not fucked up I dont what is.
generationiers
34.
Doing one thing and saying another.
Consistency between whats said and whats done.
Example I:Parent, Im not going to XYZ if you dont XYZ.
*Child doesnt do XYZ *Parent does XYZ anyway.
Example II:Parent, If youre XYZ Ill XYZ for you.
*Child IS XYZ *Parent never XYZs
And etc.
crepus
35.
Making fun of their interests.
Make fun of your kid when theyre showing you something theyre clearly working on.
And thats why Okasan, I dont show you shit anymore.
HuaMushu
36.
Appeasing them just to stop them from throwing a tantrum.
skimble-skamble
37.
Studies have proven that positive reinforcement is way more effective.
Yet people still threaten kids.
And without reinforcement, everything else falls out of place.
You cant teach a kid much if you cant guide his path in key areas.
So it snowballs out of control.
dolphone
38.
Giving them zero privacy.
Taking their door off their room after a certain age.
coolkidstuck
39.
Running to coddle the child every time they fall down or throw a tantrum.
robotdebo
40.
Not letting them fail and learn from mistakes.
Not letting your kid fail and learn from mistakes.
Its OK if the kid doesnt win or gets in trouble with a teacher/etc.
its not a complete reflection on you how you respond to it is.
Generally speaking, if your kid get a bad grade or got in trouble he probably deserved it.
Let him take the consequence.
