“Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.
It’s worth waiting for the right person to date, so don’t settle.”
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Updated 5 years ago,August 10, 2020
1.
Roman Kraft
You cant convince someone to love you.
You cant convince someone to love you.
Seeking contact with the person who broke your heart is picking at the scab.
Roman Kraft
Vishvasher
2.
Listen to how the other person speaks about their ex.
Listen to how the other person speaks about their ex.
If theyre purely nasty about them, then most of the time they will be the same to you.
Adults respect decisions of others and if theyre still bitter about their ex then theyre probably not over them.
glitter-farts
3.
Dont overexert yourself to gain their approval.
Dont overexert yourself to gain their approval.
Dont do everything for them if they dont do anything for you.
Abbystengfit
4.
If they appear disinterested, its because they are.
Cluckieduck
5.
If someone wants to spend time with you, they will make time for you.
If someone wants to spend time with you, they will make time for you.
throwaway606010203
6.
Dont think you could save someone or make them better.
Dont think you’re free to save someone or make them better.
Most of the time, you cant.
Uhmanduh09
7.
Learn to say no unapologetically.
Learn to say no unapologetically.
phantom_panties
8.
Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.
Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship.
Its worth waiting for the right person to date, so dont settle.
Candelabelen
9.
Dont be afraid to be single.
Dont be afraid to be single.
You have to learn to be happy with yourself before trying to find that person who makes you happy.
InThisHouse19
10.
When the warning bells go off, run!
When the warning bells go off, run!
You dont need to waste your valuable time waiting for him to change.
jester33455
11.
If youre hesitating about giving someone a second chance, dont.
If youre hesitating about giving someone a second chance, dont.
IAM_REPTAR_AMA
12.
If they dont like who you are when youre relaxed and natural, they arent a good fit.
When dating, be yourself.
If they dont like who you are when youre relaxed and natural, they arent a good fit.
Dont focus on being the perfect girlfriend.
My first relationship I tried to be the girlfriend I thought I was supposed to be.
I put up with things I never should have and never spoke up.
Again, just be yourself and find someone who likes that person and makes you an even better person.
omnomnomscience
13.
If you want something, dont just sit around and wait for it.
If you want something, dont just sit around and wait for it.
DontPanic42H2G2
14.
Dont stay with a sucky person just because youre lonely.
Never convince yourself that a sucky person doesnt suck just because you want some affection and/or company.
Blackbird6
15.
Dont stay with someone if it isnt working.
If shit needs to change and it cant or wont, call it.
Angsty_Potatos
16.
Dont fall in love with someones potential.
This is what I came here to say.
Dont fall in love with someones potential.
Go on what theyre like right now and cut short any fantasies or plans to encourage them to change.
ThatGIANTcottoncandy
17.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Pay attention to actions and patterns of behavior.
He may insist that he loves you, that he cares about you, that he respects you.
He may feel something very strongly for you, and he may truly believe what hes saying.
If the way he treats you isnt loving, or if its careless or disrespectful, walk away.
Hold out for someone who consistently treats you well.
huevos_and_whiskey
18.
If you cant be weird together, it wont work.
Overall, just not hiding who you are to just the other person.
cmet21
19.
Youre not trying to be liked, youre determining your compatibility.
Youre not trying to be liked, youre determining your compatibility.
Once I changed that perspective, dating became a lot healthier for me.
sunnysidemegg
20.
A bit past your age range, but here are my pearls of wisdom…
If he wants to make you a priority in his life, he will.
You will save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartache.
lena christina
21.
You arent obligated to be someones entertainment.
This can probably be good advice to any gender in this age group that is shy like I am!
It took me a long time to realize this myself but I finally got there!
You arent obligated to be someones entertainment (and vice versa.)
If they arent trying to have fun, it isnt your job to provide it.
Its okay to just relax, and awkward silence isnt necessarily a bad thing.
If you cant think of anything to say, that doesnt necessarily mean you messed anything up.
You dont have to be on all the time.
Just because you didnt think of enough jokes doesnt mean youre boring.
Just because you didnt share enough about yourself doesnt mean youre nobody.
First impressions are not the most important part of building a relationship.
Its okay if it takes a third or fourth impression to leave your unique mark.
PantomimeWitch
22. thevelveteenrabid
23.
Be an adult about your feelings, good or bad.
Be an adult about your feelings, good or bad.
Playing cute at this stage isnt really being honest with yourself or the other person.
lilfish222
24.
If someone shows you that they dont want you, just walk away.
If someone shows you that they dont want you, just walk away.
Keep your dignity and use that energy for something, or someone, else.
Crossbowsaint
25.
Nobody is able to read your mind.
You have to communicate.
Nobody is able to read your mind.
You have to communicate.
It is okay to protect yourself.
DO NOT CHANGE YOURSELF TO yo SOMEONE ELSE.
You will change as you grow up but dont change on the account of someone else.
ensure you are emotionally and mentally sound enough to handle it if it happens.
linxsuslexus4315
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This is also relevant for friends, I think.
cinna_minna
27.
Recognize when love is love versus love is abuse.
I had an emotionally abusive partner in my teens.
Dont get sucked in like I was, because I was incredibly shy and afraid to speak up.
cheap_peep
28.
Sometimes you date good people that you just dont have chemistry with.
Nobody has to be the good guy or bad guy.
You deserve someone you get fireworks with.
Dont be afraid to hurt somebodys feelings.
Itll suck, but staying with the wrong person will suck more.
You dont want to have the right person come into your life when youre stuck in a meh relationship.
giniajoe
29.
Learn to be OK with being single.
Learn to be OK with being single.
hpabedi
30.
Never make someone a priority in your life when you are just an option.
Never make someone a priority in your life when you are just an option.
If he cheats on you, leave them.
wavinsnail
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Dont compare your timeline to anyone elses.
Dont compare your timeline to anyone elses.
Also you are so much younger than you think you are.
Cotton25
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Dont move too fast.
Dont move too fast.
Experience your relationship and allow time to show you who your chosen one really is.
wandersomemnts
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Dont let anyone convince you that your relationshipneedsto come before yourself.
Its so important to find balance between relationships and other parts of your life!
Dont isolate yourself in a bubble of codependency.
Set time aside away from your partner to spend time with friends, even if theyre mutual friends.
Maintaining friendships outside of a partnership is key for 2 reasons.
Do you really wanna bethat couplethat cant function without each other in a social setting?
If things go south and you end up separated, its important to have a support group!
Thats my bit anyways.
Good luck c:
SunflowerSpot
34.
If you think something is off about him, youre probably right.
Listen to your gut feeling.
If you think something is off about him, youre probably right.
And lastly…sex and love are different.
NurseSophie89
35.
You dont need a reason to leave someone.
You dont need to wait until they do something wrong, yell at you, or anything else.
If you want to break upjust do it.
You dont need a reason to leave someone.
Lizzer1152
36.
Be with someone whom you love and respect.
PretentiousPiehole
37.
Dont be intimidated by anyone!
Dont be intimidated by anyone!
Everyone is a dork on the inside, and no one is cooler than anyone else.
Afraid of being awkward?
Everyone is awkward, who cares, move on.
cheex4weex
38.
Dont EVER stay with someone just because youre used to the comfort of being in a relationship.
Dont EVER stay with someone just because youre used to the comfort of being in a relationship.
I realized long ago that my fear of loneliness had been holding me back from ending toxic relationships.
420sealions
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Dont waste time in a shitty relationship because youre afraid youll end up alone.
- Theres plenty of dick/vagina everywhere.
You only get one chance at life (that we know of.)
Dont settle because youre afraid.
- Dont date your friends ex.
No matter how they tell you they feel about it oh, its fine, I dont care.
Dont make excuses in your head for why someone is acting a certain way.
Oh shes playing hard to get because she wants me.
Also, if someone is playing hard to get, fuck that.
Thats just a sign of emotional immaturity, and you dont need those types of games.
- People arent mind-readers.
If you want something, or need something, or feel somethingsay it TO THEM.
If you suffer in silence and never communicate how youre feeling, your relationship will suffer.
Boundaries are important.
you might like different things and still find a way to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
No man or woman is worth your mental sanity.
Possessive and controlling behavior are not signs that someone just loves you so much.
Being in an abusive relationship doesnt only mean being beaten by your partner.
Abuse can take on several other forms, some of them pretty insidious.
If youre not familiar with the term gaslighting, Google it now.
Also, Google cycle of abuse.
It generally doesnt get better.
- Sometimes love is not enough.
You may love someone but theyre not right for you and youre not right for them.
Its ok to move on.
- You come first.
Your goals, your aspirations, your life.
dont let someone manipulate you into doing it.
I guess I dont really want kids but s/he really does so Ill do this for them.
- Live your life.
Be your best self.
Grow as a person and work on self-improving.
Make that your focus.
You will also attract better people.
<3 ENJOY
kate1124
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Dont ever go into a relationship thinking that certain traits/behaviors will change in your partner over time.
Dont ever go into a relationship thinking that certain traits/behaviors will change in your partner over time.
If they are a slob, theyre likely gonna stay aslob.
If they are rowdy, theyre likely gonna stay rowdy.
If they suck at communication, they probably arent going to get much better at it.
Now, Im not saying people never change.
If you cant, move on.
