Don’t explain the plots of books, movies or dreams in anything longer than three sentences.
Youll just be seen as a walking buzzkill.
2.Dont explain the plots of books, movies or dreams in anything longer than three sentences.
Court Prather
3.Dont highlight your flaws.
They probably didnt notice.
4.Not reading when people are ready to go.
5.Dont over commit, be casual.
If no one reacts to your witty comment, drop it.
If your advice is falling on deaf ears, drop it.
Just roll with the punches yo.
The harder you try, the easier it is for someone to tell that you are trying hard.
Relaxed conversation is inviting and attractive for most people.
6.Ask questions rather than give input about your own life.
Someone starts talking about their dog?
Dont automatically go into a tirade about your dog.
Letting someone else do the talking means you have to talk less, and questions make you more attentive.
7.Not reading people about how much personal space they need.
Then 50% notice.
If they mispronounce their correction, 90% notice.
I have zero idea if these statistics are true, but the comparison stands.
Its not awkward to be around the person who said grool.
11.Ironically, I have found that socially awkward people tend to struggle with silence.
They get visibly uncomfortable and I imagine its because they are overthinking the scenario.
This seems to be especially true in relationships.
12.Dont back track a conversation.
Youll get another chance.
13.Super prolonged eye contact.
Its super uncomfortable when someone stares straight at you when youre talking, and they dont.
For over 20 minutes.
14.Dont drink significantly more alcohol than the people you are with.
This is surprisingly easy to mess up.
16.One of the quickest way to make a friend is to share a light secret of some sort.
No gossiping unless its about a genuine asshole and Im 100% sure they feel the same way.
People like to be trusted, and to feel special.
To feel included in something.
To be in on the joke.
17.If somebody is hovering around your group at a party, notice it.
Dont pretend theyre not, and dont ignore it.
And dont let them keep standing there waiting for somebody to let them in.
Make space for them and say, Hey, Im [name].
Theyll say their name.
(Obviously some people dont want to join in, and thats fine.
But Im not talking about them.)
18.Knowing the time and place for jokes and meme references.
I work for a environmental conservation company, sometimes we deal with pretty heavy situations.
My coworker looks at us and dead ass says: F in the chat am I right?
Extreme example, but holy hell I was mentally scared from the cringe.
19.Forcing a joke or trying too hard to be funny.
I just find some socially awkward people try too hard to be liked and sometimes come off too strong.
20.Confidence is quiet, anxiety speaks.
Confident people say I did this, non-confident people say I did this because.
Basically, unless someone asks you, dont preemptively justify or explain yourself.
21.Caring too much about minor flubs.
Even the most socially graceful person in the world will do something embarrassing or awkward every so often.
22.Over-explaining everything they say.
Like theyre worried everything will be taken the wrong way, so they keep explaining things ad nauseam.
Also continuing the conversation after someone has said they need to leave.
24.Some people will talk about themselves and nothing else.
The trick is to get other people to do that.
25.Being a try hard nihilist or saying everything sucks and thinking it makes you look edgy or cool.
Also realizing that not everyone wants to debate you all the time, about everything.
Saying agree to disagree can make the difference between getting another invite or not.
26.Lots of socially awkward people say that they hate small talk.
Nobody likes small talk though.
27.like stop saying Im a nice guy/girl.
You are definitely not if you have to repeat it constantly.
28.A thing that I see a lot is people saying that nobody likes them or they have no friends.
30.Trying to One Up everyone.
Also, trying to be too serious sucks too.
31.Not having enough general knowledge.
Just maintain a base of of being informed about stuff.
For example, know what common jobs do in a broad sense.
Know what common hobbies are.
Like a few months ago I met a traffic engineer.
That base line allowed me to ask some basic questions about his work.
32.Sitting in a group of people playing games on your phone.
33.No eye contact during introductions / handshake.
35.Pointing out that something is awkward like silence.
Dont acknowledge it because now thats all you two will remember.
Its awkward and theres no way from coming back from that.
Accept the silence and take a moment to think of a different conversation topic.
37.Apologizing instead of thanking.
Rather than saying sorry for being late, thank them for being patient.
38.Talking to much about a topic the other person has only showed mild or fake, polite interest.
39.If they dont invite you they dont want you there, dont force it.
No one wants to talk of they cant get a word in.
42.Dont change the subject of a conversation unless that point in the conversation warrants it.
Let the other person speak whats on their mind about what youre talking about.
43.When talking in a crowd, do not mumble but speak with a clear, confident voice.
44.Honestly, the biggest mistake is thinking youre the only awkward person in the room.
Once I realized that it I was able to relax.
