At its core, a woundmate is a trauma-bond connection.
These relationships often start with a ton of promise but ultimately become toxic and triggering over time.
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Updated 1 year ago,April 4, 2024
At its core, a woundmate is atrauma-bondconnection.
Tyler Rayburn
Your relationship started out great.
You two clicked immediately and things progressed naturally.
Everything felt so easy and effortless.
The chemistry was insane.
However, since that magical beginning, now there is mostly toxicity.
Now, youre not entirely sure where you stand with them at any given moment.
They dont treat you as someone they cherish but rather a person they could simply take or leave.
This leads to epic fights and pain.
However, what makes a woundmate so toxic is that there arealsopassionate reconciliations.
Despite the lack of compatibility, the chemistry is undeniable and is ultimately what keeps you both hooked.
You dont feel seen by them.
Another sign youve met your woundmate is that you dont feel they truly see you.
Your woundmate willhearwhat youre saying but wont seem to grasp the true meanings behind your words.
You will feel exhausted in your attempts to make them understand you.
You bring out each others insecurities.
Woundmatesignite one anothers deepest fears.
You scratch open their old wounds and they pour salt into your lingering hurt.
You trigger one another endlessly, without even meaning to.
You only make each others cuts deeper, despite your positive intentions.
You feel drained after spending time with them.
Your woundmate is not someone who leaves you feeling fulfilled and aligned.
Rather, they completely deplete you of your energy.
Theyre a jot down of emotional vampire, to an extent.
You feel like you have to abandon your own needs to keep the relationship alive.
There is a level of codependency that is the core of a woundmate connection.
Despite bleeding out, you are still desperately trying to stitch together their hurt.
The idea of losing them feels inevitable but that thought is also too painful to even consider acting on.
A woundmate is not your forever person; they are not your soulmate or The One.
A woundmate simply reveal what pieces of yourself still need healing.
A soulmate is the person who supports you while you pick up the pieces.
Let your woundmate go.
Let your heart mend.
