Dating is beautiful, emotional, vulnerable, and scary wrapped up into one.
As a woman, this advice always seemed logical.
Getting into a new relationship is a few things.
Marie S
There are feelings of excitement, curiosity, and butterflies in your stomach.
These latter emotions are entirely valid.
Dating is beautiful, emotional, vulnerable, and scary wrapped up into one.
Your heart and physical health are the utmost priority when entering into a new relationship.
No matter how long youve been dating, you have every right to ask these questions with your partner.
Do they want to date casually?
Are they looking for something serious?
If youre clear on your intentions, this question is never too early to ask.
Ive listened to many people, myself included, shy away from posing this question.
You dont need to wait for them to make that move.
If they respond well, your worries are over.
Both outcomes are a win.
If youre exclusive
If youre sleeping with the person, ask this question.
If you want to know before sleeping with the person, ask this question.
If this question has been racing through your mind the past week, ask this question.
This defining of the relationship is even more important when your physical health is at stake.
Again, worrying about being labeled crazy or overly-eager should be the least of your concerns.
If thats how someone reacts, consider yourself to have dodged a bullet.
Their sexual health
No matter how early you are in dating someone, you should have this talk.
STDs are no joke.
Thats something that could severely impact your health and be with you for the rest of your life.
Never let someone make you feel like this isnt your right to know.
If youre sexually active with them, its your business too.
So go ahead and have the talk about whether or not your partner has been tested.
Not everyone can express their feelings well.
Not everyone shows love in the same way.
Asking a question about how your relationship is going and where they see things heading is completely reasonable.
Be careful not to bring it up too much, though.
How their past relationships affected them
People experience present love based on their past loves.
Maybe theyre slower to open their heart to you.
Talking to them about their past relationships could reveal how deeply betrayed they felt in the past.
Theres so much truth to be found in someones reaction.
If that person is going to leave, let them.
