You make time for the things and the people that you love.
For one reason or another, they are not in a place to offer themselves in a romantic way.
The following five excuses are so frequently used, that they can slip their way into any relationship.
Ryan Jacobson
The timing isnt right for me right now.
The timing of life is a difficult thing to navigate, and it frequently does take us by surprise.
Life has a way of flowing through seasons, and it doesnt necessarily mean that your time wont come.
Its hard to ever know when the timing would be right for us to date someone.
If we wait for everything to align, we are going to be waiting for an extremely long time.
Give someone the ability to have their own timeline, but dont wait around for their timing.
If they were really into it, they would pursue you.
I dont want to lose what we have.
Unfortunately, with love comes risk.
Someone can date you casually for years with this story.
If they want you, theyll show it.
I dont want anything serious right now.
However, its exhausting to bank on the fact that someone will change their expectations in the future.
Let me make it clear that its perfectly acceptable for someone to not be looking for something serious.
When someone tells you that theyre not looking for anything serious, you oughta listen to them.
They arent going to be your significant other.
If youre looking to not be tied down, find people who are in a similar boat as you.
This is a commitment difference, and it can play a huge role in miscommunications in relationships.
Im busy with work and other things.
Were all busy people.
If you look at all of our lives, you would see that we are all busy.
You make time for the things and the people that you love.
The reality is that you dont want to pursue me enough to make spending time with me a priority.
This is another way of saying, Im just not that into you.
Im afraid to hurt you.
The old I care for you too much, I could never hurt you approach.
(If you are, then you gotta stop reading this article and find help ASAP.)
It is predicting the future without even giving them an opportunity to try.I would rather be ghosted.
We come up with dishonest excuses and blame our life circumstances for simply not being willing to pursue someone.
Why cant we just tell them?
They will keep us around, but only at arms length, because they arent looking to commit.
Save yourself, and others the heartbreak.
If youre ready for a relationship, commit with both feet in.
If youre not, just say that you do not want one with that person.
