Well, the answer is amazingly complicated and dont let anyone outside of your relationship realm tell you differently.
Since nothing about a relationship with a narcissist is normal, there will be nothing normal about the break-up.
or I dont understand you.
Paolo Raeli
Just walk out!).
Only you and you alone can write the ending to the story.
It is up to you, as the narcissists victim partner, to come to your senses.
Paolo Raeli
The catch, however, is that you better do it without guilt or self-judgment.
Having guilt, shame or self-judgment will only keep you lingering in the loop.
You must set all that aside to get to get the recovery ball rolling.
The same goes for our willingness to forgive and our penchant for being compassionate and patient.
A person could certainly have worse qualities!
Because if we couldonlymake them understand, everything would work itself out.
Obviously, this never happened.
We figure that anyone with half a brain would understand that we are right (because we are!)
and do their best to fix it.
After all, doesnt he want a normal relationship?
So we explain, plead, and even bargain but all we get is the infamous blank stare.
And then another year goes by.
Because, after all, nobodys perfect!
After all, nobodys perfect, right?
So when the narcissist returns, we choose to pick our battles and forgive and forget.
And then another year goes by.
Because the truth is that we never really have any concrete proof of anything!
Some might saywell, maybe thats because there is nothing to findbut I say thats bullshit.
Narcissists and sociopaths know EXACTLY how to keep their worlds from colliding.
Mine would look right at me and say You cant prove that.
Its all about creating plausible deniability.
Even our intuition (which NEVER lies) is no match for this deception.
A narcissist in the Game of Life is in it to win it.
Everything all day, every day is about what he can get away it.
To us, the evidence we do have never seems to be quite enough.
Because he always eventually returns so he really must love me!!
I figuredsurelyone of his reappearances would stick.
To this, he announced Those days are over!
and it was mighty convincing.
In previous years, his replies ranged from What does it matter?
When the narcissist proclaims his love, we simply want to believe.
Sadly, we continually settle for crumbs…and then another year goes by.
For me, it was just nine short months until the next October.
Because we simply want to see what the fuck is going to happen next.
It usually does and then being right becomes the addiction!
Maybe…but yup, thats what we do.
And then another year goes by.
it’s possible for you to escape the madness, my friends, and I can help you.
I do it every day, all day with people all over the world.
There is no magic fix but relief is possible.
It all begins with understanding.
If you want to talk about it, call me.
This is a crazy life we lead and recovery from narcissist abuse has got to be a team effort.
