This might not be the real them – but it’s them right now.
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Updated 2 months ago,March 4, 2025
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You cantchangethem.You cant convince them to give up drinking.
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They need to make that decision on their own.
So dont feel like its your fault if you cant find a way through to them.
If youre close with this person, then their drinking is going to negatively impact you.
It could change your own behavior.
It could change your own thought patterns.
They might not be the only one who needs a support system.Al-Anonexists for a reason.
The program is built for family and friends of alcoholics.
Its free to attend and it will help you feel less alone in what youre going through.
You know theyre a good person deep down.
You know they arent trying to hurt you.
However, you cant wait for them forever.
Even though this might not be therealthem, its the person youre stuck with right now.
That other person isnt around anymore.
Maybe you could start over again.
But you cant start over right now.
Not when theyre acting like this.
Not when alcohol is the only thing on their mind.
Youre not a bad person for leaving.It doesnt matter if other people judge you.
It doesnt matter if they consider you heartless.
They dont realize how long you put up withtoxicbehavior.
They dont realize how many times you gave this person another chance, and another, and another.
They kept making the wrong choice.
They kept pushing you away.
