This isnt just about men and pleasing a man, this is really about you.
When you talk and talk, it just comes across like youre trying to prove something.
And I get where this comes from.
This comes from a feeling of not being enough.
You dont think showing small pieces of yourself is enough, so you get it all out there!
They become interested in you when you show interest in them.
So this whole song and dance is just backfiring on you.
Not to mention, endless talking comes across as braggy and arrogant.
Also, this non-stop talking energy is draining.
It just comes across as being a little too much.
Notice when youre proving yourself and stop because you have nothing to prove.
When you do that, you make a shift and instead of being achaser,you become achooser.
I am not saying you cant or shouldnt ever initiate or make a move.
it’s possible for you to show interest.. but then leave it alone.
The right person for you doesnt need to be backed into a corner.
She may also ask him to hang out… and hell agree!
And they probably have a nice time, they may even hook up.
Now the woman thinks that he must have feelings for her… because why would he reply otherwise?
Why would he hang out with her?
However, unless she reaches out to him, she basically wont hear from him.
You have an agenda.
This is the biggest area that trips women up.
If he texts you a lot one day, great!
Hes clearly thinking about you a lot.
One step closer to the goal.
If he goes a day or two without texting you, then youve gone backward.
And when you go backward you feel despair.
You are basically interacting with him like an object- he is a means to an end.
Was I too insecure the other day?
Is he serious about me?
Did I sound too desperate when I texted him 4 times in a row yesterday?
Does he seem excited by me right now?
Does he look bored on this date?
Is he going to ask me to come over?
Or should I make him wait?
How can I make him want me?
You basically view him as a reflection of you, a representation of your worth and worthiness.
Suffice it to say this isnt a healthy attitude, its a desperate one.
And he will pick up on this energy and he will be turned off.
Rather than worrying and wondering, have a go at just be in the moment and enjoy it.
You post endlessly on social media to get a rise out of him.
If youre trying to spark a certain reaction in a certain person, its coming from a desperate place.
Guys know when youre playing games and they are not into it.
It can be a little fun and exciting at first, but it gets old really quickly.
Heres the thing about games.
But if you arent actually… then your true self is going to emerge eventually!
Playing games points to insecurity and immaturity.
A better strategy is to focus on being that confident, high-value woman, rather than pretending to be.
Dont play hard to get,behard to get.
