They can occur in romantic relationships, friendships, within the family, and the workplace.
Trauma bonds are rampant in unhealthy, abusive or otherwise toxic relationships.
They can also be exacerbated by our own abandonment wounds.
Ron Lach
Here are five signs you may be in a trauma bond with a toxic person:
1.
You know theyre deceptive and conniving, but you cant seem to let go.
You may very well know that youre being unjustly mistreated.
You may even hold some unresolved anger and resentment towards this person for violating you.
Whenever theyre kind, you doubt yourself.
Your loved ones can see how much this person is draining you, physically and mentally.
Yet youre not quite ready to face the truth.
You feel addicted to them and lose far more than you gain.
You develop an addiction to this person that is not only psychological butbiochemicaland physiological.
Your body, mind and spirit aches for them; your whole world is starting to revolve around them.
You are driven to the brink of self-destruction.
Toxic people drive you to destroy yourself it is like psychological murder with clean hands.
The nature of a trauma bond is that it makes the person unable to see reality or themselves clearly.
When youre in a toxic trauma bond, your self-worth takes a hit and your sense of agency plummets.
You feel trapped and develop a sense oflearned helplessness.
As a result, you lower your standards and expectations for what constitutes a healthy relationship.
Only through self-awareness and self-care can we cut the cords that continue to keep us chained.
