This man sees women as objects, and objects dont have feelings.
Understand this: You are replaceable to someone that is objectifying you.
Nothing about your relationship is unique, because he treats all women the same.
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What does it mean to be objectified?
Imagine your favorite pair of shoes.
When you are being objectified, you are those shoes.
He will be charming, but not genuine.
No, his compliments will be endearing and flattering as all hell.
And you wont mind until you realize they are always based purely on your looks.
), but after a while I wanted more.
I wanted him to hear what I was saying and compliment me on my thoughts, not my body.
Sometimes, he would even get tricky and actually just compliment himself.
The entire relationship will be based on him.
This man does not care about your personal life.
He may ask you questions about yourself, but every conversation will ultimately relate back to him.
You are not a person to him, remember?
When I was dating such a man, I knew everything about his family.
I could tell you every little thing he did for his job, and more.
Meanwhile he knew diddlysquat about me.
That was a common conversation between us, because he was interested in exploring a new city.
The bedroom will revolve around him.
You will never hear this man ask you what you like in bed.
Since you are an object, you are in bed with him to make him feel good.
He does not care what you like because he just needs to get where he needs to go.
He was controlling with no sense of my body and no intention of learning it.
Conversations will be one-sided and not stimulating.
But since everything is so one-sided in this relationship, it is hard to build real conversations together.
Most things you say will not actually be heard, especially if he cannot relate them to himself.
And afterward, he would give me a great big hug and tell me he had a great time.
He is probably treating a lot of other women the same way.
This man sees women as objects, and objects dont have feelings.
Understand this: You are replaceable to someone that is objectifying you.
Nothing about your relationship is unique, because he treats all women the same.
Hurting your feelings has no effect on him.
Foolishly, I did not think about this aspect.
Since he was so charming, it was hard to see the scumbag of a man he really was.
A man who objectifies a woman is a small person who is three parts narcissist and one part sociopath.
If my experience sounds eerily familiar, know that you deserve so much better.
You are a human being with feelings and a genuine personality and you deserve to be treated as such.
Stand up for yourself and do not let such a person take advantage of your kind heart.
You cannot change him, so dont even try.
Your best bet is to let him go, move on, and find someone that treats you right.
That was my approach, and I have to say it was pretty satisfying.
