Remember this is just temporary.
They will definitely heal.
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Updated 5 years ago,August 19, 2020
Trauma is not just having an unforgettable ill-feeling.
Max Ravier
Its not simply being scared of things and it doesnt heal so easily.
Hence, saying things like,Its going to be okay,doesnt help a traumatized person.
Do you have friends healing from trauma?
Here are some simple ways to be there for them.
Research about what theyre going through.
They dont have to know this, of course.
But believe me, its an act of love when you intend to learn more deeply about their situation.
Read credible articles and look for books that comprehensively discuss topics about their experiences.
Read self-help books on their behalf.
Listen to podcasts that discuss psychology.
Check in on them in a way that doesnt remind them of their trauma.
Checking in on them is a great idea.
Every person appreciates being asked about and cared for.
Every person cherishes thoughtfulness.
But perhaps consider your way of asking.
Avoid reminding them of their trauma by saying specificities like being scared, being pained, being abused.
But sometimes, a simple how are you is more than enough.
They may not say everything but remember that its the thought that counts.
Be sensitive to what you share online or anywhere youre connected.
We cant just let a good online post pass by.
But sometimes we have to consider the people who can see what we share.
It doesnt mean you oughta compromise your preferences or your freedom of expression.
Thats why Facebook and Instagram created some ways to filter your audience.
Not everyone may understand your posts the way you do.
Its not betrayal, its just a way to care about them.
Learn the art of validating their feelings.
Validating their feelings isnt just done by saying its okay to feel that way.
It just doesnt end with telling them that their emotion is right.
Instill in them that its good to analyze everything they have felt once they move on.
Because it can help them cope with more complex emotions in the future.
I used the word instill because you cant just directly say itthey may find it offensive.
Reassure them and be consistent.
Tell them that you are always there to listen.
They need someone right now.
Remember this is just temporary.
They will definitely heal.
If they find you as their refuge then be grateful because it means they trust you.
Isnt it fulfilling to finally see them becoming free from trauma and being a part of the process?
It will be worth it.
