There is nothing worse than the physical pain of losing a love.
Letting go of love is not easy but it is possible.
Ask yourself how determined you are to do this.
Peter Kent
Before you begin any life changing process you must ask yourself how determined you are to actually do it.
On a scale of 1-10, how close to a 10 are you?
So are you ready to do this?
Is there any part of you that is holding on to the possibility that things could work out?
Do you feel like you arent strong enough to do this yet?
I am here to tell you that closure is a myth.
Peter Kent
So when you have decided that the relationship is over cut him off.
So go no contact right away.
It will make the process way easier!
Ask yourself what it is that you oughta let go of.
This is very important.
What is it that you better let go of to move on?
What was the top layer?
For my client it was anger.
That was her first layer.
She had to deal with the anger.
The second layer was the hopes and dreams.
The hopes and dreams that she had had for their life together.
The third layer, the core actually, was the love that she still had for this man.
And this love, we decided, wasnt actually something that she wanted to let go of.
Not in a hopeful way but as something from her past that was special to her.
Ask yourself what is true and what you have made up in your head.
This is such an important piece of letting go.
She wanted to move to the woods, raise sheep, have kids and grow old together.
He loved the city, hated livestock and didnt want kids for at least another decade.
Armed with that knowledge she was one step closer to letting him go.
Ask yourself what it is you really want in a relationship.
Without knowing what you want you are going to have a hard time getting it.So make a list.
Make a list of what you want from a man in a relationship with you.
It doesnt have to be long but makes it comprehensive.
So make your list and run through it with your current guy in mind.
And your emotions just cant argue with black and white.
He is not what you want.
Time to move on.
Cut off contact, peel back the onion, question your assumptions and define what you want.
Get yourself back out there.
