Say what?You heard me.
The falling in love.
The learning about each other.
God & Man
There is so much excitement, and it just feels surreal.
All you have are the possibilities of what could be, and possibilities are exhilarating.
But we dont think about that.
We think about the worry.
We worry because we dont know whats coming next, and thats scary!
In doing so, usually, one of two things happen.
Or we totally miss out on the best part of a relationship!
Youre basically engaged in one long conversation throughout the day?
As distracting as it was, I miss it.
I miss the flutter and the rush of excitement upon seeing a text from him.
And Whats do you want for dinner?
But that takes more effort.
Does anyone ever start the day with a huge goofy grin?
There is something so intimate and vulnerable about those before bed conversations.
Being excited to see him
Im always happy when my husband comes home.
But the excitement of seeing him is different than it was at the beginning of the relationship.
I remember being so excited all day for our dates.
Planning what to wear, doing my makeup perfectly, and just begging time to move a little faster.
Even if we saw each other almost every day that week, it was still exciting.
Everything is so new and fresh, things are blossoming, and its just the best feeling.
The excitement of the journey
Speaking of … something is thrilling about living in a world of unlimited potential.
And thats where you are in the early stages of a relationship.
Youre in a world of potential where anything can happen.
You and he are headed somewhere, and you dont know where, and its exciting.
Now Im not saying marriage or a serious commitment is the ultimate destination.
But there isnt the same magic.
Things get real fast.
Literally, I felt a rush throughout my entire body.
Love really is a drug, it causes a chemical reaction within us.
But just like any drug, the effects wear off over time.
Not to say it isnt exciting when he tells me he loves me now.
Its still exciting, but its just established.
Were not falling in love anymore, weve fully fallen.
It doesnt make it less special, but you know what I mean.
And yes, you do always fall more in love, but its just different.
Now were at the stage where we need to maintain that love.
Love is a verb, it isnt something that just exists.
You work on it and maintain it and that ultimately makes you stronger and tighter as a couple.
Thats what I miss.
Even though I love what I have now so much more.
The beginning of a relationship isnt real, and thats what makes it feel so idyllic and perfect.
Everything is so easy and effortless.
You dont have to work for the magic, its just there.
It isnt freely given and effortless anymore.
If you put in the effort, you will reap the rewards, but most people hate effort.
All of this was so easy in the beginning, you didnt even have to think about it.
Now is the harder part, but its far more rewarding.
Now is about maintaining what youve built, and ensuring that it lasts.
So thats my message to you.
Quit worrying, Stop trying to figure out the end while youre just at the beginning.
Just go with it, and try your best to enjoy the ride.
