In your childhood home, nothing was ever good enough.
Naturally, one of the largest contributing factors in our life is our parents.
We assume that everyone reflects fondly on their childhood, and probably many people do.
Austin Guevara
In fact, there are even support groups directly geared towards these lost children:Adult Children of Alcoholics.
You grew up in a home filled with dysfunction.
As an adult, this lack of understanding can manifest in many forms.
Maybe you misinterpret cues that others think seem obvious.
Maybe you ask questions that your friends feel you should know better than to ask.
Nobody may understand, but deep down you know its because one or both of your parents were alcoholics.
Frantically trying to control everything.
Your home resembled controlled chaos at best or flat out anarchy on the worst of days.
As a child, you felt lost and unable to control the turmoil taking place all around you.
As an adult, this lead to you developing manycodependent tendencies.
You crave some sense of normalcy and fear the unknown.
Many people dont understand this and see your efforts as unsupportive and even a hindrance of their lives.
Show extreme loyalty (even to harmful people).
You feel a massive void left by parents who could never really show you the love you truly deserved.
As an adult, youre extremely loyal to your friends and romantic partners.
Live for others more than yourself.
Once we develop behavior patterns from a young age, its often hard to break those habits.
As an adult, this means many things regarding how you approach relationships and everyday interactions with other people.
Youre highly sensitive and often appear to be attuned to others emotions.
In your childhood home, nothing was ever good enough.
You rarely received praise, and you learned to see every breath you took through a critical lens.
These feelings were even more heightened if your alcoholic parent became aggressive or attacked when drinking.
As an adult, you cannot accept compliments, no matter where they come from.
Even the highest collegiate honors or major workplace accolades are never enough.
