For that matter, do you have no idea what marriage boundaries are or where to start?
To understand healthy marriage boundaries, look at the four walls of your house.
Those walls are the structure that holds your life together.
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They hold your food and your bed and your possessions, and its where you live your life.
Healthy marriage boundaries are the same as those four walls of your house.
They are the things that support your marriage as it matures.
Healthy marriage boundaries come in many shapes, sizes and colors.
A few examples:
ensure you stay yourself.
Allow yourselves time apart.
ensure there is mutual respect at all times.
Keep the power dynamic equal.
Make time for both sides of the family.
Respect each others friends and hobbies.
So, what are the consequences of having no boundaries in marriage?
There are no established rules.
You could lose yourselves and each other.
And time together is, of course, important.
And as a result, you may not only lose yourself but you could also lose each other.
How horrible does that feel?
Does it make you want to work to make things better?
Contempt comes from the lack of defined rules in a marriage, from the lack of boundaries.
Communication is a skill that is developed over the course of a marriage.
And marriage is long.
Think about the unhappily married people who you know.
How good are they at talking to each other?
Do they snip and argue and roll their eyes and talk about each other behind their backs?
Do you see them talking to each other with respect and honesty?
And without it, the consequences can be disastrous.
Your eyes could wander.
And many of them found themselves turning to men they knew for support.
Not all of them went down that slippery slope to an emotional affair, but many of them did.
With their new confidant, they didnt feel that way.
They felt happy and appreciated and loved.
And they fell in love with someone who wasnt their partner.
And when this happens, the shit really hits the fan.
