True narcissists control you, manipulate you, coerce you, belittle you, isolate you and sabotage you.
Although this article specifically focuses on male narcissists, female narcissists also exhibit these same behaviors.
Here are five things you dont realize he is doing because hes a narcissist.
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1.Love-bombingyou with nonstop attention, then withdrawing.
Giving you the silent treatment for seemingly no apparent reason.
As a result, youre left believing that youve done something wrong to provoke his silence and withdrawal.
It is all about control for a true narcissist.
Createslove trianglesbetween you and other people, making constant comparisons to demean you.
You might believe youre just being insecure if you feel reactive to these manipulative machinations.
Withholding attention, compliments and affection withcontempt.
This can present itself in a number of different ways.
Minimizing your good qualities, accomplishments and independence so he can control you.
Now, he reacts withrage, condescension and contempt in response to anything that gives you joy.
This is because narcissists arepathologically enviousof their partners.
They deem anyone who has anything they covet as beneath them to protect their fragile ego.
When a victim is independent and can self-validate, it sends a true narcissist into a frightening rage.
They belittle you for the very things youre proud of.
Yet the truth is, any normal, healthy partner should be happy for you andencourageyour independence.
A true narcissist, however, relies on his or her victims being dependent on them.
They condition their victims to associate any healthy pride they have with the narcissists punishment and cruelty.
Youareworthy of respect, attention, affection and consideration.
Youareworthy of consistency and healthy communication.
Youareworthy of being cherished as an equal partner.
Youareworthy of having your basic needs and rights honored in a relationship.
There is life afternarcissistic abuse but first you must accept that this person is unlikely to change.
True love is not abuse or mistreatment; true love will help you more than it will harm you.
You deserve real love.
You deserve to thrive and to be victorious.
You deserve to accomplish your dreams.
You deserve to heal.
You deserve to be free.
