It is a crushing, miserable feeling.
You feel powerless and scared and have no idea what the right move is.
Im going to tell you exactly what NOT to do when hes pulling away.
First, lets address why this happens.
There are two primary reasons a man will pull away
1.
This is a common male response to stress.
He is losing interest in you(this is the nightmare scenario women fear).
Its normal for people to cycle between wanting to get close and wanting to spend time on their own.
This actually makes for a healthy relationship.
Dont have a go at win him over.
When a guy pulls away, a lot of women react by trying to win him over again.
She thinks maybe if he re-discovers how amazing she is, then hell come back.
She is extra attentive, goes above and beyond, and tries to be what she thinks he wants.
This is useless for several reasons.
It might have nothing to do with you so theres nothing to prove here.
Just let him be.
If you keep coming at him hell just become more annoyed with you and will pull away further.
Now would you want to date someone who was sending out that message?
When youre in this headspace you send out a desperate vibe that he will pick up on.
Dont obsess over it.
Spend that time literally doing anything else, anything.
Worrying about how he feels makes the situation worse.
This applies to all areas of life: when has worrying about something ever lead to a good place?
You have better things to do with your time than stress.
So go do anything else.
This is the opposite of what he needs.
Hes taking space because thats what he needs.
Dont smother him, dont beg him to talk to you, dont make demands or ultimatums.
Anger destroys everything it touches.
Yes, youre hurt, you feel neglected, and youre uncertain of whats going on.
But realize a lot of this is self-generated and not necessarily his fault.
He doesnt owe you 100% of his time and attention.
And its not his fault if you get upset because he needs to deal with things on his own.
venture to be compassionate, and understand hes doing something that is natural and necessary for him.
Just tell him where youre coming from.
Its much better to respond instead of react.
When you respond, you have a choice.
You take in all the information and decide what the best course of action is.
When you react, youre a slave to your emotions and you usually say things you regret.
I know it can feel personal, but it really isnt.
Some men have a much harder time processing and handling emotions than women do.
For him, escaping from his feelings temporarily is sometimes more beneficial than trying to sort through them.
give a shot to tap into your empathy rather than leaning into the anger.
The way to not worry about this is to just be OK with the outcome no matter what.
It means he spared you from wasting more of your precious time, spared you from being strung along.
If you suspect hes losing interest in you, the worst thing you might do is panic about it.
That just wont take you anywhere good.
Instead, put your hand on your heart and say, I will be OK no matter what.
Spend a few moments taking some deep breaths and really letting that sink in.
), step back and focus on yourself.
Enjoy having the time and space to connect with yourself for a little, this is a gift!
