Your need to have the last word.
How often are we speaking with patience, kindness and love?
Having the last word means youre always trying to get your point across.
Benjamin Robyn-Jespersen
Im so guilty of this.
Its a very selfish habit and it makes the people I talk to feel undervalued.
What points can you bring?
What thoughts do you have?
(Or even heard because youre always trying to open your mouth.)
Sometimes you cant help it.
Benjamin Robyn-Jespersen
This habit brings about overconfidence, and frankly, some bigotry.
And the thing is, you dont reallyneedto impress anyoneyour knowledge/actions/perspectives/thoughts will speak for themselves.
I think we can all fall into this habit at times.
We want to puff our chests, seem like the best, or gain someones approval.
Heres what you might do:Shut up.
It sounds harsh, but its true.
Do you have to talk about every single thing you know?
Do you should probably make it a point to tell someone theyre wrong (even if they are)?
Do you want to come off as a know-it-all?
Give others room to share their perspectives before putting yours out there.
If someone is dead wrong, be gentle in correcting thembut not for your own benefit.
Help others learn or see a different perspective, rather than declaring your own importance in a conversation.
And remember, this isnt a one-person conversation, a one-man/woman show.
Let others talk, too.
Youre arguing back instead of letting others speak.
Youre acting as if nothing impresses you.
The convo isnt all about you, what you know, or what you think.
Conversations are about getting to know others, not about looking like a bada$$.
Thats for when youre alone with the mirror.
You want to get on a persons good side.
You want someones support, attention, or praise.
You just want to be the favorite.
Whatever your excuse or reasoning is, being a people-pleaser is less-than-ideal.
And its almost always obvious.
I think we can all be guilty of this at times; I know I am.
I dont want to be the one person who disagrees, so I shut my mouth.
I get nervous that saying something will make a person dislike me,and God forbid someone dislikes me.
But the problem withpeople-pleasingis that its fake.
It comes off as insecure, insincere, and sometimes even downright pathetic, which isnevera good look.
Heres what you could do:Dont worry so much about what other people think.
A conversation isnt about making someone else happy, and it sure as hell isnt about kissing someones butt.
Who cares if someone doesnt like you?
At least youre being honest.
And dont change your feelings or perspectives just to match someone elses.
Maybe youre the punch in of person who likes tofix people.
Sometimes people just want to venttheyre not looking for a solution, theyre looking for a listening ear.
Youre making them feel less empowered and less strong.
Heres what you’re able to do:Let them finish speaking.
Maybe its just a shoulder, or a friend.
Maybe its some advice or consoling.
Maybe its a change or a step in the right direction.
Or maybe itisfor you to do something to help.
But verify youre not doing everything for them, or feeling like you have to beeverything to everyone.
(Because you dont, by the way.)
So take a second and reevaluate yourself this morning.
Are you bringing positivity to your relationships and conversations?
Are you being selfish in the way you talk to people?
Do you should probably take a step back and make some changes?
