You are going to be sad.
You are going to be devastated.
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Updated 6 years ago,September 19, 2019
Are you feeling depressed after a breakup?
Daria Shevtsova
And the good news?
Wou will all feel better soon, I promise.
Let me share what I know…
1.
Know that your feelings are normal.
You have just broken up with someone you once were deeply connected to.
The hopes and dreams that you had for the future have been completely dashed.
You are spending time alone that you used to spend with them.
Your life is totally different and, honestly, not so great.
He couldnt handle the pain that he was feeling, so he stuffed it down.
Four years later, he is still overwhelmed by his loss.
It is important to be okay with the emotions that you are feeling.
It isnt a reflection of any weakness on your part.
Its a reflection of the pain that you are feeling.
And it is important that you feel those feelings.
Only by truly feeling and processing emotions are you able to work through them and let them go.
So embrace your emotions.
Own them as your own.
Process them and let them go.
Are you spending large amounts of time in your pjs, eating ice cream?
When you do go out, are you drinking more than usual?
Are you not sleeping?
Have you gotten any kind of exercise in recent memory?
If you have answered yes to any of these questions, then you are not alone.
I dont know many women who dont treat emotional issues with ice cream instead of marathons.
So dont feel bad, but do make a run at make a change.
If you cant sleep, take some melatonin to help you get some.
If you are eating ice cream, venture to eat just a little bit less.
take a stab at get off the couch and take a walk.
Embrace things that bring you joy.
What kind of things?
I eat Pad Thai.
I spend time with my kids.
So, what makes you happy?
When you do it, does it make you feel better?
I didnt think so.
Block them on your phone.
Disconnect from them on Facebook, Instagram, etc.
Dont talk to your friends about what they is doing.
Instead, pretend like they just dont exist.
Pretend that they are someone you used to know who has disappeared off the face of the earth.
The prospect of getting back into another relationship is the last thing that you want to do.
To give of yourself to someone else when you still have love for another person seems impossible.
And that is fair.
But its also important that you dont stop living your life.
You only have one life, and its short.
So, if someone from work invites you out for a drink, do it!
Go to the movies with friends.
If you are invited to a party, go to it.
Put yourself back out in the world and into the path of love.
Put yourself out there.
You will be glad you did.
Feeling depressed after a breakup is a horrible feeling.
What we want more than anything is to move on and stop the pain NOW.
Luckily,grief is only the first step, and there is hope for your future.
So, embrace your grief, feel it and release it.
