The truth is that you cant miss someone whos always there and you want this person to miss you.
When done correctly, it gives the relationship a bit of extra excitement.
The problem with playing hard to get is that it backfires sometimes.
Joe Gardner
Whoever was playing hard to get was playing wrong, playingtoohard to get.
Its a fine, fuzzy line.
Everyone has different limits, expectations, and definitions of love.
Joe Gardner
When you play hard to get, take into account the other person.
After all, you are interested in them, no?
Youre going to want to play the game carefully.
Remember, as much as this is for you, its also for your crush.
Heres how to do it effectively.
Give the attention he or she needs, but not the attention he or she wants.
You have to get into your crushs head to figure out how much attention is too much.
When does it cross over?
When your crush no longer feels like he or she needs to work for your attention.
Make your crush work for it, but dont forget to put in some effort yourself.
You want the person youre dating to always be making an effort.
But you do want him or her to feel like he or she should always make an effort.
You want your crush towantto always make an effort.
Playing hard to get is a game, one played by two people.
Nothing extreme, of course, just a nice bit of tension to keep things exciting.
Make him or her wait for sex.
Yes, you have a penis and/or a vagina, and you know how to use it.
That in itself isnt enough to tell you its time to get your freak on.
Again, you dont want to wait too long because anticipation can kill you.
Or, at the very least, kill the relationship.
If youve been having sex, dont make it part of the routine.
Sex shouldnt be routine.
It should be spontaneous.
Routines, no matter what they consist of, inevitably become boring.
4. initiate the window, but dont let him or her jump through.
You should always be careful with whom you let in.
Not all people deserve to get to know you on an intimate level.
Instead of laying your hand on the table, show your crush one card at a time.
And considering you have a lifetime, take your time.
Get to know each other slowly.
Dont rush this process, because its more fun not to.
Give him or her affection, but always take your space.
Relationships are often disappointing because people in the relationship are aiming for something impossible.
I know that you want the two of you to become one, but that will never actually happen.
You two will always be separate individuals.
So let this person be themselves, and let you be you.
Do your own things, and then do the rest together.
It allows you to miss this person.
The truth is that you cant miss someone whos always there and you want this person to miss you.
