What do you lose when youre in a relationship thats not right for you?
What have you lost in the past?
What kinds of unpaid labor have you performed for people who have only returned your kindness with cruelty?
Gökhan Baytekin
Then make another list:What are the benefits of being single?
What kind of activities can you do when youre freed from any obligations to another person?
How much time can you now spend focusing on yourself and manifesting your desires?
How does being single free up your mental resources and energy?
What kind of goals can you pursue without interference?
What kind of communities can you engage with?
What kind of worries are you no longer plagued by?
How secure and confident will you feel?
2.Match their energy and set limits to contact.
The trick is withdrawing early onbeforeyou get attached to toxic individuals.
The longer you stay in a toxic relationship, the harder it can getto detach.
Identify whether this is a short-term manipulative strategy or a signal of genuine excitement about you.
That way, you never get attached to constant contact in the first place.
Dont defend your standards and do not lower or negotiate them with potential partners.
This detachment early on is also necessary to preventtrauma bondingwith toxic individuals.
This means writing down the behaviors and traits you find unacceptable (e.g.
It also means writing down what youdo wantin a partner (e.g.
Process your traumas and insecurities as much as possible.
Youll be able to identify what wounds and triggers they may be deliberately targeting to exploit you.
Women especially can also find themselves manipulated by the specific tactics narcissists use, such asjealousy induction.
Unfortunately, this can escalate into narcissists isolating you and demanding control over you in return.
What are the types of self-care activities that replenish you and how can you engage in more of these?
What would your dream life look like regardless of whether or not youre in a relationship?
Are your current friendships, communities and support networks nourishing, or do they need a reevaluation?
Are there any fitness goals or goals for your physical health you want to meet?
