Agency, independence and the ability to thrive on your own terms is very threatening to a toxic individual.
People who engage in a few of these behaviors in certain circumstances are notalwaysmalignant predators.
Here are fifty signs youre dealing with a highly toxic person:
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Giving unsolicited advice enables a toxic person to feel in control and smug.
They may get into useless discussions about whethereveryoneshould have equal rights and whether proven facts are truly legitimate.
They are identity thieves in that they steal facets of your personality for their own.
They are always watching to see what other attribute they can take from you.
They rage excessively when challenged.When done by a pathological person, this is what is known asnarcissistic rage.
Thats why toxic people rarely do it.
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In fact, they may even continue the same behavior with even more force after youve pointed it out.
They call you names and verbally abuse you.These are traumatic shortcuts to control your behavior.
Toxic people know that if they repeat something long enough, youll start to internalize it.
Verbal abuse acts as a portal to erode your identity and self-esteem.
They attempt to micromanage your life.They may give a shot to control where you go and who you see.
Theygaslightyou.They make you believe that you are unable to see your own reality clearly.
They deny abusive things theyve said or done.
This sudden abuse amnesia works to undercut your perceptions and make you doubt yourself.
They engage in pathological lying and infidelity.Lying comes easily to them and so does betrayal.
They engage in a number of indiscretions and affairs, all while leading a double life.
Their public image and facade rarely match the person they really are behind closed doors.
When youre too busy feeling unworthy, youre also too busy to realize that you deserve better.
If they made a mistake, theyll inevitably scapegoat you and claim youre the problem.
Its as if they expect you to pay the price for their own omissions and struggles.
The silent treatment is harmful because it affects thesame area of the brainthat registers physical pain.
The most malignant of narcissists even drive their victimsto suicide.
They show little to no concern for your welfare or your basic needs.
They are too inherently selfish to look after you like the way youve looked after them.
Theyd prefer to take it from others whove already done the work.
If you feel uncertain about making decisions, youre unable to trust yourself.
Negating self-trust acts as leverage for a toxic person to step in and exercise their power over you.
By invalidating and pathologizing your emotions, they ensure that you never learn to listen to your inner guidance.
They cry crocodile tears when they need something or as faux remorse.Otherwise, theyre rarely emotional.
Or, they turn the conversation back to themselves.
They gossip about people and engage inrelational aggression.They enjoy pitting people against one another.
They like spreading rumors.
They thrive off of excluding people and socially ostracizing those they feel threaten their power or evoke their envy.
They assassinate your character both publicly and privately (the latter ensures you dont catch on).
They recruit allies orflying monkeysto enable their behavior and carry out some of their dirty work for them.
They spread misinformation about youand spreadsmear campaignsto undercut your credibility.
This way, if you ever speak out about their behavior, fewer people would believe you.
These insults become ingrained in your psyche and lead to self-sabotage.
They withhold affection for no apparent reason.
Most people withdraw from being affectionate due to some sort of conflict.
Toxic people do it so they can play puppeteer to your emotions.
They usesex to degrade,objectify and control you rather than as a way to connect with you.
Sex is a power play to them, another instrument to feed their grandiose fantasies.
Theystonewall youand shut down conversations before theyve even had the chance to begin.
That way, you never get to have a voice in the relationship.
Your desires or basic needs never even enter the picture.
Theyidealize you,putting you on a pedestal, only to devalue the same qualities they once praised.
Throwing you off the pedestal has the effect of making you work hard to get back on it.
Meanwhile, they sit back, relax, and enjoy the show of making you pine for their approval.
They constantly shift the goal postsso what you do or who you are is perceived to never be enough.
