If you put someone on a pedestal, you give them no choice but to look down on you.
1.If you put someone on a pedestal, you give them no choice but to look down on you.
2.Some friendships age like wine, and some others age like milk.
Ieva Vizule
If someone makes you feel tired and unpleasant more than happy, its time to let them go.
Conversely, dont be a doormat.
Some battles are worth fighting even if you think youll lose.
have a go at find your own principles, and let them guide your judgement.
4.No one actually really knows what they are doing.
We always look backwards and things from that vantage point seem like they were preordained.
But in the moment, everyone is just guessing.
Some people are just better at covering that up.
5.Most of the time, people arent doing things TO you.
Theyre doing things FOR them.
Theyre not trying to slight you or hurt you, theyre just like everyone else putting themselves first.
Im sure theres a better way to put it, but thats the gist.
You likely didnt even come into the equation when they were deciding.
6.Just because its an emergency for them doesnt mean it has to be an emergency for you.
7.Love is a rubber band.
It will stretch to accommodate those you care about.
8.You cant pursue something without leaving something behind.
I could go on.
10.No matter how hard you want/need to take care of others, remember to take care of yourself too.
Otherwise youll burn down, and then youll become part of the problem.
You cant stop it or change some things.
Every person will struggle, youll wake up depressed some days, and your parents will eventually pass away.
All you might do is keep moving forward.
Get over it and move on.
13.you could choose your family.
you’re able to find people who love you and treat you with compassion.
Youre not obligated to have relationships with people who treat you badly just because they share DNA with you.
Family dont end in blood.
14.People may not remember what you say but they will ALWAYS remember how you made them feel.
15.Sometimes doing the right thing is difficult or unpleasant, but you still need to do it.
Refuse to fall prey to the bystander effect.
If someone needs help, dont stand around waiting for someone else to do something to help.
Be the one who steps up.
it’s possible for you to be happy even when things are hard.
16.Everything that is worth having in life is hard to get.
Act more, talk less, and stop looking for easier ways.
18.Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
19.Think twice before you say.
Those words could break someones heart or make bad things happen unintentionally.
Dont argue when you are angry.
You will lose control of your emotions and you will end up to make things worse.
Dont trust people too much.
Some people may have double standards.
20.You are responsible for your own happiness.
Dont expect others to give it to you.
21.Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
It colors everything else.
Related: you create a narrative of your life, and that narrative can be unhealthy as shit.
For example, do you feel like nobody likes you?
The only person telling you that is you, and you dont have to feel that way.
Do you know what nobody mentions about Jonas Salks polio vaccine or Einsteins theory of relativity?
How old they were.
Its your accomplishments that matter.
The only person who has to believe in you is yourself.
Taking genuine feedback (especially negative feedback) seriously will reduce your rate of mistakes.
If you dont consider what people say then you might dismiss something you gotta hear.
If you want to get good at something, it requires effort, sacrifice… and enjoyment.
If you dont know them then its easy to be missing context.
22.I have learnt that its important in life to ensure the people you love know that you love them.
Not just in the context of a partner, but your parents, sibling and friends.
A time will always come where for whatever reason, those people arent around you any more.
I get to live knowing that and it brings great happiness to such a dark time.
Love and appreciation can bring so much joy and it costs absolutely nothing.
24.Dont take life too seriously.
Sometimes (most of the times) you should just go on and dont give a shit about things.
25.We dont see things as they are, we see things as we are.
26.No matter how amazing your day is, it will still be 24 hours long.
If you want it to last forever, Im sorry that wont happen.
And this is true for the times your day isnt going well.
The day may seem like forever but its not.
Its still going to be 24 hours long no matter what.
Even if your SO broke up with you it will still be 24 hours long.
27.Being cool, calm and collected in a stressful situation is hugely important.
No matter how much you have a go at stop it, life will throw you curveballs.
Learn how to hit the curveball.
28.Sometimes life is unfair and kicks you when you did everything right.
It is best to move on.
29.Break the rules, not the law, but break the rules.
You have to think outside the box.
Thats what I believe.
31.Start saving for retirement very early.
32.It is impossible to use rational argument to dissuade someone of an irrational point of view.
And your time is limited so make the best out of it.
34.Debt will suck the life out of you.
Dont take on debt.
35.There will always be someone richer, prettier, more successful, etc.
Focus on what you DO have rather than what you dont have.
36.Social skills are very important.
37.The pursuit of YOUR happiness is all that matters.
Give all you could to the people you care about but never at the expense of yourself.
Make enough money to get what you want but dont work your life away.
And finally be genuine and kind but dont let others take advantage of you.
Your thoughts alone can sometimes create harmony or chaos.
39.Life is filled with challenges.
Those challenges will never be the same as anyone else that you know.
Its not about what happens to you but how you handle it.
Another good thing to live by is never brag about yourself.
Let others do the bragging for you.
If you dont like what theyre saying then you should change something about yourself or not associate with them.
40.There is no time limit or right way to grieve.
41.All anger comes from expectation.
Dont expect anything from any human, any animal, any technology etc.
42.If something doesnt feel right, it most likely isnt.
43.Not everyone is going to like you and thats okay.
44.These 4 got me a long way esp during rough tides:
Be impeccable with your word.
Dont take anything personally.
Always do your best.
45.People are willing to help if they think you dont need any help.
have a go at fake it if you wish to get support from people around you.
46.Dont discuss religion or politics at work.
Its cliche, but I always have to learn things the hard way.
Cost me some friendships with people Ive liked and respected.
47.People that you dont know on a deep enough level dont really care about you.
Others care much more about the details in the context of their own lives.
48.No matter what you do, somebodys always gonna have something negative to say about it.
You cant yo everyone, worry about pleasing yourself.
49.Look out for number one.
Dont loan money and never ever co-sign for someone.
And in the off chance they are, it really doesnt matter a fuck.
