1.They remember things about you from previous conversations.
2.When they help someone with no strings attached.
3.When they dont have to have the full story to help someone.
Elliott Dunning
I accidentally choked on some water (wrong pipe and all) at work.
And had shit coming out of my nose, had watery eyes the whole nine.
He is from Hati and is all around a wonderful person.
English isnt his first language but he gets by just fine.
he just opens the door and hands me the tissues without even looking in the room.
I think he even runs interference at the door to try and give me privacy.
Such a good dude.
4.When they continue being kind and humble even when getting to a position of authority.
People who get warped into something nasty the second they get a tiny bit of power have tiny hearts.
5.They value honesty highly from themselves and others but also tact and sensitivity.
To find someone in between is rare and very valuable.
And they dont talk about their life one way one week and then a different way the next.
6.When they exhibit genuine concern for others and talk about topicsof mutual interestrather than focusing on themselves.
7.I like people who pick up trash even though it clearly couldnt have been theirs.
He was genuinely interested in mine and my sisters life and actually tried to have a friendship with us.
He actually talks to my mom about boundaries and what is and isnt ok.
He understood from the get go that my sister and I come first and respected that.
My former stepdad didnt and would take a stab at isolate us.
Instead of yelling at my little sister for messing stuff up, he taught her how to fix stuff.
He owns up to his mistakes.
He actually apologizes, discusses it, and asks how to avoid similar mistakes
Hes a honest dude.
My mom doesnt have to worry about him cheating like my stepdad did.
Overall Im much happier that hes with my mom instead of my fuckwad stepdad.
9.When they actually listen to what youre saying instead of just waiting their turn to talk.
Alternately when they do small favors without being asked.
11.When people recognize there is more than one right way to do something.
Theres a huge difference between being right, and wanting to always be right.
13.When they own up to their shit.
14.Gets out of their seat to let a person who needs it more.
Holds the door for the next person behind them.
These small gestures say big things.
Usually show me respect back too.
16.If they thank the bus driver.
Kinda feels like they know theyre in a scripted play, and someone forgot their line.
Were all in this together style vibe.
Humble people tend to treat others as equals and are less narcissistic.
How is so and so?
Like… they listened to you a couple of times, then they gave a shit.
20.What they do with shopping carts when they are done.
21.People always looking out for what others need.
For example, we were doing some training yesterday that got our hands a little dirty.
One of our guys walks to the bathroom and returns with paper towels for everyone to clean their hands.
It didnt even occur to me to do that let alone for others.
Through the week he was always doing small things like that.
I dont know him personally but I would wager hes a good dude.
22.Someone ASKS if they can pet a dog before getting too close to it.
I LOVE petting other peoples dogs.
23.Any parent that takes their screaming toddler out of the restaurant until its calmed down.
24.If they move crap out of the road.
25.They are able to say I dont know.
So many people just cant say these words.
Not that that isnt something we should all strive to do.
But people can be pretty fake and still have that skill.
Even my own preference is a bit flawed, admittedly.
Where good conversationalists can make you feel included which is nice.
Earnest and sincere people make you feel safe.
They are easy to read and understand, and that helps put the mind at ease.
And this allows me to understand how they will act or what they will do given a situation.
It isnt necessarily a mark of a good person persay.
But it makes it hard to hide being a bad person.
Truly good people are hard to prove.
Someone can pass every test in day to day life.
But then drop it all the moment things go outside a certian box.
27.When they refill the kettle after being last to use it!
Even more so in the workplace.
28.They have a go at improve themselves, rather than tearing other people down.
The mere act of throwing someone else under the bus is just contrary to what they believe.
If you dont stick to your values when theyre being tested, theyre not values: theyre hobbies.
29.Being genuinely interested to the conversation topic.
Not many people can do that.
30.Making me laugh not at the expense of someone else.
Bonus points if they are into self-deprecation, too.
31.When a restaurant fucks up your order and youre cool about it.
32.Id say people who arent afraid to speak highly of other people in public.
On the other hand, I have a friend who speaks incredibly high of his wife at all times.
Theyre both really good friends of mine.
I was so taken aback and I really admired the way he talked.
Ive always tried to copy this.
So I turned around to help her and ended up losing my snorkel in the process.
33.They consistently put others first.
Examples include: holding doors for others, serving others food before themselves, etc.
34.When they are drunk, at their most honest and least inhibited, they say good things.
When they are angry, not just annoyed but amazingly pissed off, they still dont fight dirty.
Couldnt call an RA till 8 in the morning.
Stood around wondering what the hell I would do when a friend miraculously appeared at the door.
Turns out he was gaming and saw me through the window.
I didnt know he was there, so wouldnt have been hard to ignore me.
39.They smile back at strangers.
Theyre nice to children and animals.
They listen when people speak.
42.If they take the time to apologize to someone even for something incredibly minor.
Making sure they feel okay.
I fell head over heals for my crush when she did that.
43.When they ask you questions back.
44.Someone who waits for people disembark from public transportation before boarding.
Its really rare these days.
46.Being able to admit when they are wrong.
Good mature people say oh shit my bad.
And theres nothing sexier than saying, I was wrong.
Good sexy people admit they are wrong.
47.Being kind to animals.
48.They clean up a mess they made in a public place.
49.When they take direct, unmitigated responsibility for making a mistake.
That was entirely my fault.
What can I do to help fix this?
