I asked and his reply was, “It’s your funeral.”
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
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You should propose to my daughter you moron.
Nathan Dumlao
That was when I knew I loved this man.
2.When we were dating he sent me an email called system to date my daughter.
It had a bunch of joke questions on it.
I filled it out and answered every question as seriously as possible.
He gave permission immediately.
No heart to heart talk.
To this day he has it framed in his office.
I also asked him on my birthday.
I figured hed think it was rude to turn down my only birthday request.
Gosh, that was 9 years ago.
4.I actually asked both of her parents.
I took them out to dinner, had a great conversation with them about things.
They were ecstatic about it.
I definitely got brownie points all around.
6.I texted them asking if we could have dinner.
Just the three of us.
They called and asked if this was what they thought, I said yes.
We agreed to meet at a great deli halfway between us.
(They live two hours away).
Id like to marry your daughter.
Ok so then Im not paying for dinner.
Alright fine you could marry her :Chuckle:
We ate and chatted more.
That weekend they were going out of town and asked their daughter to house/cat-sit.
I get to eat this all weekend.
Such good food and I didnt get to have any leftovers.
Still bitter about that.
7.I took my now-FIL out for churrascaria, telling him I wanted to celebrate.
Kept waiting for him to ask me why we were celebrating.
Totally caught him off-guard, he pulled a real-life : -o face.
Top bloke, 10/10 FIL, would wed his offspring again.
8.I was so nervous I broke down and ugly cried in front of her dad…
He gave me a big hug and ugly cried too.
We knew they would both be supportive but marriage is about families joining together.
We each wrote a letter and received one in return.
We put all 4 letters on display at our wedding reception.
ME: Ya, I know, I ….
I am not one who is usually without words, but didnt really know where to go from here.
We had been together 5 years at that point.
She said she was calling me for him to tell me yes.
In the background I heard him yelling fine!
Pretty sure he finally let it slip to her that I had asked him.
I know this makes him sound bad, but he really was just struggling giving up his youngest daughter.
Hes actually the best man/father/person Ive ever known.
12.My wife made it very clear that her dad always wanted her future husband to ask him for permission.
Happy wife, happy life and all.
Didnt want me to ask for permission, awkward for both of us.
13.His reception was room temperature.
Didnt say no but wanted be to have a better job, better house and more money saved up.
14.My father in-law is very traditional, and also values manliness… neither of which terribly describes me.
What do you think of that?
He took it very well, and I didnt compromise my values by asking permission.
Weve been married for over two years now.
Then he told me hes been calling me his son in law for a while anyway.
But honestly I wasnt surprised.
He and I became good friends after my SO and I started dating.
16.I asked about 6 months prior to the engagement.
He was excited and said he was going to start writing his father of the bride speech.
He did a great job at the wedding because he had 18 months to prepare.
17.He laughed at me and said,Are you sure?
And then they gave me a 72 hour return policy after the actual engagement.
Shes your problem now.
19.I asked a while before I was planning on proposing as we didnt see them often.
I cant remember the details but he said yes.
They didnt get on.
20.Teared up, said that I was who they had been praying for.
22.I didnt ask, I just basically said, Want to see something cool?
And I showed them the ring and they were super stoked so I guess it went pretty well.
Entire call took less than 2 minutes, which was very exciting.
I didnt have a clue what he was talking about so laughed it off.
He learned that day to be careful what he asks for around me.. love that man.
Didnt really care though and been married 10 years.
26.My wife told me I had to ask her Dad before I proposed to her.
So basically I went in expecting a quick chat and ended up telling him my life story.
27.My SOs father just said, Ok, but you have to have a baby right away.
So he was telling me to bang his daughter asap.
28.He asked that we wait 3 years before trying to have kids.
Smart guy; we divorced after 2.5 years.
29.Called the spouses father.
He just paused, went uhhh…ask[spouses mother]!
Called her and she started sobbing and welcomed me to the family.
So, pretty good I guess.
30.Shortly before he said yes he made me promise to never hit her or cheat on her.
31.We were out at dinner and my then Girlfriend went to the restroom.
I asked him for her hand.
His reaction was literally whaaaaaaat?
He said yes and asked when I was gonna propose.
I said right now.
Hes a big time planner and plans every single detail for everything he does.
He always gets mad that I never plan anything and everything always works out for me.
Like asking him to marry his daughter a minute before I proposed.
32.I bought the ring, and suddenly couldnt wait to propose.
So I called her mom, and asked her, then asked for her dads phone number at work.
I couldnt even take the time to ask in person.
Its really the only time Ive heard him cry, other than at his dads funeral.
Hes a big tough construction worker, so he normal doesnt show emotion like that.
He said of course I could propose to her, btw.
33.I asked permission from my future father-in-law to both date and marry his daughter.
Both times, he just gave me a big grin before consenting.
Its been 16 years since we were married.
In that time, Ive lost my own dad.
Respect and open communication from the beginning has paid off in spades.
34.I took him to a cocktail bar, he knew what was coming.
I gave my little speech and asked his permission and he responded?
How could I say no?
When I proposed my now-wife said, Of course!
So I always joke that her family has a problem with the word yes.
35.My wifes parents are Korean and dont really speak English too well however they can understand quite a bit.
While visiting them one day after dinner I began to ask her parents permission to marry while using English.
36.My father in law was confused.
I had just had my house burglarized and he had been helping me sort things out.
When I started talking to him about proposing his head was thinking about the robbery.
I dont remember how I started the conversation.
I never thought if it as asking permission I was asking for his blessing.
Basically giving me an idea of how easy it was going to be to assimilate with the family.
I basically showed up out of nowhere in the middle of day while they were eating lunch.
As soon as I said that, he just looked at me concerned.
His face looked like he was expecting bad news.
Up to this point I was pretty relaxed and just ready to have an easy conversation.
Me and my wife had been dating like 7 years at that point and I knew the family well.
As soon as I saw that expression though, everything changed.
His expression didnt improve.
I could already see his mind racing on wtf to do.
He then said we might as well just talk right now.
I told him I wanted to marry his daughter and that I just wanted their blessings before I proposed..
He was shocked and clearly not ready to hear the news.
I mean, I could literally see his lip twitch.
He didnt say anything.
At this point Im fucking nervous as hell too.
Did I fuck up?…..
I quickly changed to topic back to lunch….we went and sat there awkwardly eating.
I tried to keep bringing up how long weve been together and how much I loved their daughter.
It didnt really go anywhere.
I think I was just too weirded out at that point.
I was just happy to leave and glad I got that hurdle over with.
I dont have any objections.
40.Dont just ask the father, ask both.
This is especially true if they are divorced.
My fiancees parents are divorced but have a working relationship.
I was nervous to ask her father.
How did it go?
I didnt have to ask.
I setup a dinner meeting to meet both of them and asked the question.
He went first and stated he was fine with it.
She, on the other hand, went on about how happy she was.
Everyone is different, ask both parents.
I didnt ask permission but more for their blessing.
We talked and laughed and cried, it was great.
Weve been together for nearly 10 years and married for 2.
Father-in-law what the hell took you so long?
I got his blessing.
Been married 11 years now.
44.My wife and her grandfather were very very close.
Her grandparents more or less exclusively raised her.
We had been dating for about 4 years and he got incredibly sick.
I went to her grandparents and essentially just showed them the ring without saying much.
When I pulled out the ring her grandmother immediately teared up and gave me a big hug.
He died before our engagement a couple weeks later.
Weve been married for three years in December!
46.I asked and his reply was, Its your funeral.
47.My dad already knew what my husband was coming to talk to my dad about.
Dad: Whyd you bring that?
Are you trying to get me drunk?
I did have the talk with her three kids.
I wasnt surprised, though.
I was finishing up at university and my girlfriend was in graduate school.
It was awkward at first, but then my girlfriend decides to skip her nap and joins us.
She sees her Dad all confused and asks what we were talking about.
Girlfriend was still confused but moved on… [pause] Nothing?Nothing?!
You march down there and give him an answerNOW!
Howcouldyou do that to the poor boy?!
My girlfriend (now wife) sleeps like a log and didnt her mothers shout.
The Mother-in-Law deeply apologized to me in the morning for her husbands actions.
Its been over 15 years now since that retreat and Ive never seen my father-in-law shell-shocked like that since.
Pretty much one of my favorite memories of all time.
