Even fights are one sided.
The other person just stops trying to handle the issues.
Wont make time for you but expects you to be available for them anytime.
Marius Held
2.When the communication slows to a trickle.
Its much more obvious when communication dies altogether.
3.When instead of getting excited to see their messages you get annoyed and/or feel smothered.
4.When you realize the most meaningful conversation youve had recently was Whats for dinner?
When in the last year, youve had the same amount of sex as a nun.
When you force a smile and pretend everything is okay in front of everyone.
When you realize if it wasnt for the kids, you probably would have already left.
When you no longer care whether they notice youre avoiding any free time with them.
5.When you feel like you have to make excuses about your SO to others.
(Why they do what they do.
Why they said what they said etc.)
The other person just stops trying to sort out the issues.
8.When your SO seems totally disinterested in talking to you.
You have a go at start a conversation and they just give you one word/one sentence answers.
9.When he/she no longer bothers to get upset or angry with you.
It shows they have checked out and think of you as a stranger.
12.When they become non-commital on plans, especially those that involve reservations.
When deep, personal conversations either remain more superficial than before or stay mired in prolonged unresolved conflict.
When their five-year plan changes vastly, seemingly out of the blue.
Pretty much means they dont want to be home… and or, in your company.
All these things are signs that the iceberg is dead ahead.
16.Indifference, even the possibility of breaking up doesnt seem to phase them.
They stare at you blankly as you cry your feelings of hurt out.
Extreme defensiveness, and never offering a real apology, if any.
17.When you dont see each other for a few days, and youre not excited to get back together.
18.When youre spending time with them and youd rather be anywhere else.
When conversations with them become dry and boring, thats a big one too.
19.Just hanging out becomes a chore more than pleasure.
20.You find yourself not wanting to sleep next to them.
You resent them and have things you want to resolve but know it wont be well received.
They skip out on things important to you.
They dont make you feel wanted or appreciated.
You feel used and taken for granted.
One of you starts sleeping on the couch randomly and often.
You have a hard time getting the other to talk about anything.
You feel a constant tension in the house.
You start feeling like you live with a ghost that is haunting you and you cant communicate with it.
21.You feel like there is nothing between the silence and the sex.
You find yourself fighting and making promises far more than sticking to them.
When you do something for your partner, you feel resentful rather than happy.
22.When their quirks that you used to find endearing now make you want to commit violence.
23.If you cant be yourself or have hobbies that dont include them.
24.Looking forward to him being away/at work etc.
Or me not looking forward to coming home.
26.When one of you starts calling the other by their real name instead of the normal pet name.
Usually an indicator of a loss of affection.
28.When your SO is happier when hes with other people than when he is with you.
29.Friends generally pick up on it before the people in the relationship.
One friend, that might just be a fluke.
Multiple friends, and youre in a bad relationship.
31.Youre the one initiating conversations, meetings etc.
a lot more than your partner.
32.When your partner is often suspicious/accusing of you.
33.When breakup songs start making more sense to you than love songs.
35.They start comparing you with past failed relationships.
36.When you start checking their Facebook account to see what theyre up to.
37.They stop saying the L-word.
38.Cute messages that feel obligatory.
40.When you start feeling nostalgia for the relationship youre currently in.
41.Often, but not always, for romantic relationships is a difference in sexual preferences.
Along the same vein, avoidance in general.
They always seem to have something thats keeping them busy.
Or they have previous obligations.
They wont answer their phone very quickly, or at all.
43.When it starts to feel like a bottomless pit.
Relationships require work, but they also need to be functional.
If basic incompatibility keeps the two of you from working together as a partnership, its fucking doomed.
44.Short replies and longish reply times.
45.If they start bettering themselves going to the gym, taking classes, dressing more sharply.
46.Only having sexual attraction when youre drunk.
47.Silence and lots of it.
48.The brief terrifying, numbing thought of is this going to be the rest of my life.
49.When you take a trip together, and argue the whole time.
50.She didnt want to put her name on the house we were about to buy.
I forget the reason, but it went in one ear and out the other.
It should have been a red flag, but I was naive.
We were divorced one year later.
She didnt want that house with me because she was already thinking about leaving me.
