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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
Here are a few modern dating rules fromAsk Reddit.
Oh, I cant tonight, but how about Saturday?
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Benjamin Jespersen
2.Dont make someone your priority when youre just an option to them.
All theyll have met is someone they kinda like to talk to and see every now and again.
Thats not what I want people new to dating to know.
Not all of it.
Maybe even a long time.
But let me tell you, that that feeling is worth trying for.
Its worth getting hurt for.
And when you do, itll make all the previous heart break seem completely inconsequential.
Every wrong person you get involved with is just a step closer to the right person.
4.Its a numbers game the more you date, the better your chances of finding the one.
5.70% of people are using old pictures and you will be shocked when you meet them.
They will be older, and they will be heavier than you expect.
6.Look for someone with best friend material.
You need a person who enjoys doing nothing with you.
9.People will not feel the same way about you, as you do about them.
Sounds cold, but cut your losses and move on.
10.Its ok to say that you dont wanna have a second date.
That is better that getting hopes up.
11.A person can have a lovely time on your very expensive dinner date and not want to have sex.
A person can invite you back to their place and not want to have sex.
A person can make out with you and not want to have sex.
A person can be having sex with you, reconsider half-way through, and not want to have sex.
Check in often to check that theyre enjoying themselves.
Dont use alcohol as an excuse to get what you want.
Keep the pressure off.
If you dont get laid, its not the end of the world.
12.Dont look too much into things stay busy and dont be super focused on just dating.
give a shot to have a life besides getting out there.
13.On a real note, relationships arent always going to be a 50/50 for putting in effort.
14.Dont talk about exes or previous dates.
15.The feelings you feel at the beginning of the relationship will not last forever.
check that there is substance to someone you date if you plan on it being a long term commitment.
16.like like like dont insult yourself on the first date.
17.Communication is the single most important factor in a relationship.
Took me until my 30s to really get that.
People are drawn to fun people.
19.It isnevera convenient time to break up with someone.
Dont ever let yourself stay in an uncomfortable situation because you feel bad/guilty.
21.Dont link your self confidence with your dating life.
If you do conjoin confidence and dating, bad things usually happen.
If you are non-religious and thats a dealbreaker, then own it.
Dont ever expect that someone will change their beliefs or core way of living life.
In a world with almost 8 billion people, there is someone out there for you.
Expecting someone else to fix your problems is not romantic.
26.I know this is very obvious but a lot people dont really realize how important this is.
But thats ok!!
If your S/O doesnt like something that you like, thats ok as well.
You dont want to end up with someone that you cant be yourself with.
Also its always a good sign if they have long-term friendships.
29.Just because one person turned you down doesnt mean another person with an almost identical/more appealing appearance will too.
30.You dont owe anyone anything.
You dont have to have a serious relationship with everyone you go on a date with.
31.Condoms are cheaper than diapers.
A first date is nothing more than a conversation with a stranger.
You might vibe, you might not.
But chemistry is a very real thing and it cannot be forced.
33.Whats worked for me Date your friends.
You already know you like them.
You already have similar interests and spend time together.
Itssomuch easier to date somebody you know you already get along with.
34.confirm to go to the bathroom before going over to your dates house.
35.If youre meeting someone for drinks, dont get too drunk.
Most of the time it doesnt end well.
36.If you meet someone special, theyre probably still not the one.
make a run at stay grounded.
37.Dont be nervous and put someone up on a pedestal.
38.A heart that is broken is a heart that has loved.
39.My first real date in years was basically me talking about myself for two hours.
Naturally, there wasnt a second date.
So my advice would be to not do that.
And also compliments, everyone likes being told they look nice.
40.Work on managing your attachment that is, dont go crazy for him/her in the first 2-3 weeks.
People often need time & space to build real connection.
Its a fine line to walk and not always easy to tell.
When you find the right one, all of the shit you waded through will have been worth it.
43.Give them space, being needy can be a huge turnoff.
You cant fix it, only they can.
The degree to which these kind of relationship dynamics is romanticized in our culture is so toxic.
45.On cheating: If theyll do it with you, theyll do it to you.
You dont know yet what they care about and going negative can have bad results.
Example: I had grown up in a family that loves dogs but makes fun of purse dogs.
I was talking to a guy who told me he had dogs.
I started in with some of the jokes about little dogs not really being dogs.
It turns out he had a chihuahua that he loved.
47.You still have other friends.
Way too often Ive seen people get into a relationship and spend every waking moment with their SO.
Almost always ends badly.
You need fresh air.
48.No one reads minds.
So figure out why you are actually feeling this, and use your words in the I feel format.
I am mad because you are an hour late, and I feel like you dont respect my time.
I am sad that you forgot my birthday because I dont feel special.
I feel disappointed that you forgot the rubber chicken because you know they turn me on.
And get someone of the opposite sex to vet your Tinder photos.
50.NEVER date out of pity.
Anything else is wasting both of your times.
