If you dont have to force a smile while talking to them.
The conversation is natural so it makes you smile.
And then they react in a safe, supportive manner.
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2.When you give them a hug and it gives you the chills.
3.When they go the whole date with our touching their phone.
4.If either person does something ridiculously embarrassing and the other person laughs.
5.Something goes wrong/not their way and they respond like a reasonable person and just keep it moving.
For example if you dont want a lift back home or their order is wrong.
7.Being able to communicate feelings without placing blame is another huge one.
Asks about your life and your past etc.
Instead of just talking about herself.
12.Some people you meet in life, theres something about them…you know they are green.
Theres a lot to be said in observing how someone treats the waiter, how they describe their lives/career/family.
You cant always put your finger on it sometimes theres a warmth about the person.
I think we should be mindful of this and take a more generalist approach.
13.For me the biggest one is they have hobbies and interests beyond hanging out with friends and watching Netflix.
15.When she wants to pay her meal.
And insists on splitting the bill.
You come to full stops at an intersection?
Dont run any red lights, play conservatively with yellow lights?
Treat my life like it matters?
Youre on the right path.
17.Having a funny discussion.
The one kind where you defend blue and she defends red.
And in the meantime both are walking through a park, a mall, or just being somewhere.
And when both agree going somewhere just for the experience.
I really like people trying new stuff and not complaining for so even though they liked it or not.
18.Talking for 5 hours but only thinking the date lasted around 90 minutes.
20.Them offering to help pay / picking up the tab.
21.The other person genuinely seems out just to have a good time, no expectations.
22.Has a passion and is pursuing it.
Speaks of their family and friends positively.
Makes eye contact when listening to you.
Turns their body towards you and mimics your body language.
Shared interests beyond music and sports.
Asks interesting questions and seems to have healthy expectations.
Touches your arm or hand.
Shared sense of humor.
Is easy to communicate with texting/calling seems fluid and there are no games being played.
23.When you take them home for the first time and your dog loves them immediately/they love your dog immediately.
25.When they can answer the hard questions and they do it honestly.
Example: I asked my fiance how much debt he had.
Uncomfortable question, very personal, but for me it was an important conversation to have.
He still told me.
Then we ended up talking till 3 am, something I had never done with a date.
26.When silence isnt awkward.
Even for such a small thing, consent is sexy.
28.Displays some sort of emotional intelligence.
The opposite of awkward and repetitive mutterings and missteps.
30.Witty banter is oh so attractive.
31.Simple, but, if you dont have to force a smile while talking to them.
The conversation is natural so it makes you smile.
32.When they use commas appropriately.
33.Saying nice, reflective, compassionate things about their ex.
34.Refusing to text you while he knows youre driving.
Watch how they treat everyone they interact with cab driver, waiter, bartender, passers-by.
Ive found that if someone treats people with decency and respect, theyre usually a pretty solid person.
Its easy to treat the waiter well, because they realize theyre being watched and evaluated.
But watch the little interactions as well; those can be more telling.
36.When they say lets go back to mine to play video games, smoke weed and eat pizza.
That shit just about makes me fall in love in a flash.
38.When she holds the conversation, rather than dissolving into 20 questions.
Humility with self-confidence shows a person is comfortable with herself or himself.
40.When a woman accepts a sincere compliment graciously.
41.Comfortable moments of brief silence and being able to have fun doing nothing or just talking.
Then you know its who your with not what you are doing.
Shows maturity, respect and intelligence.
43.Not restating overdone topics is a sign of originality.
You dont feel a sense of guilt, inattentiveness, boredom, or have a hard time focusing.
45.Laughs when things go wrong.
Life is full of little fuck ups and you want someone who can handle them with good spirits.
Listens to you talking.
Is polite to waitstaff.
Doesnt bad mouth exes.
then the date is pretty much dead.
48.Someone who takes responsibility for planning fun activities and puts in the effort to ask meaningful questions.
All small talk at a bar is the worst.
50.When you dont want it to end.
On a side note, splitting the bill (or at least offering).
