It doesn’t matter what’s going on in their lives.
If they can’t make time for you, it’s because they won’t.
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
These lessons fromAsk Redditcould save you from another heartbreak.
Shanique Wright
1.Love is not enough.
It doesnt matter if you love each other if you make each other miserable.
Be aware of who you are and what your needs are.
Dont ever venture to be someone else.
Dont live for someone else.
Be honest with your partner and most of all yourself.
2.The fear of being alone is much worse than actually being alone.
3.It doesnt matter whats going on in their lives.
If they cant make time for you, its because they wont.
4.Never settle for some one who does not truly value you.
You will never be happy and neither will they.
you’ve got the option to find love more than once.
5.You cant be responsible for someone elses happiness.
6.Just because you dont fight doesnt mean the relationship is good.
7.Dont put up with the bare minimum.
8.Listen to your gut.
If things dont add up dont ignore and justify it just because they say what you want to hear.
9.If they cheatwithyou, theyll cheatonyou.
10.I was just kidding.
; I was angry, I didnt mean it.
Both statements are lies.
What comes out in heated or drunk moments is almost always the real truth and/or feelings.
11.Theres only 3 ways to deal with a situation.
12.Abuse is not love.
Doesnt matter what kind emotional, physical, sexual whatever its not love.
If he gets drunk and then gaslights you its not love.
13.You will never change/fix someone.
They have to do it, or they dont.
14.Its ok to love someone and leave them.
Its ok to know that even though they are wonderful, they arent right for you.
15.Dont date someone who recently broke up, no matter how much they say theyre over theyre ex.
They just get better at lying.
17.Never settle for second best.
18.Its my responsibility to set boundaries and enforce them.
19.Dont take people for granted.
Dont assume that they know how you feel about them.
Tell them, show them.
20.If they cheat once, they will keep cheating.
Even if they dont, youll always be afraid theyll do it again.
21.Learn how to take of yourself before you let someone else into your life.
23.You cant love someone out of a mental illness.
24.When he stops saying I love you then hes already checked out of the relationship.
25.You could know someone your entire life and still not know who they actually are.
Leave a relationship if you know that you and your partner would be happier otherwise.
28.If something seems suspicious it usually is.
Long nights working and weekends at work or working interstate constantly is usually key for something else.
29.If he says he is afraid of commitment, he is afraid of commitment.
30.Dont stay with someone just because you dont want to be alone.
31.Leave at the right time.
Never prolong a relationship you know is over.
32.Theres things about yourself that you will not and cannot change.
That is you as a person.
If they cant accept you for who you are, theyre not compatible.
Dont attempt to wait it out, or see how it goes.
That could really mess you up.
33.Taking care of a selfish person doesnt make them appreciate you.
It makes them more selfish.
34.When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
35.You cant make someone fall back in love with you.
36.Not every waking moment of everyday has to be spent in each others company.
Personal space is key.
37.They never cheat just once.
40.Sometimes love is NOT enough.
41.There are things you cant undo.
Not everything thats broken can be fixed.
42.Do not let the hope of change carry you through the years.
44.Never fall for an alcoholic.
Youll always be #2 in their lives.
45.If someone tells you that theyre a bad person that will only end up hurting you, believe them.
46.Sometimes you’re able to do everything right and still fail.
48.Things should never be measured in sacrifice.
49.There are things you cant un-say.
