He hated when I wore low-cut shirts because that meant people saw some cleavage.
1.Ive cheated on everyone Ive ever been with.
But I wont cheat on you, youre different.
Kevin Laminto
She cheated on me.
2.Started with him not liking one of my friends.
Then it moved to hating all my friends.
Then it moved to hating my brother and parents.
He even told me once or twice that hed kidnap me if he had to.
Justified in that he only did it to bad people who deserved it.
The problem was, it was peoplehedetermined to be deserving.
4.She was always angry about something.
6.Every ex he had was described as crazy.
I thought maybe he just had bad taste in women.
2 years later, I found out he was pilfering money from my bank account to do drugs.
7.We had a summer job painting and repairing dorm rooms.
While we worked, one of us would start singing a song.
If he picked the song, we would sing it together.
This was a perfect metaphor for our entire relationship.
9.Unreliability, always had an excuse for everything, and never liked being held accountable.
I tried being understanding and forgiving, thinking I was taking the high road.
It increasingly frustrated me until I stopped believing her when she gave her word.
It was downhill from there.
You know, being parents cause I was 17 at the time and still in school.
Guess who turned out to be completely controlling and unreasonable?
11.The swarms of people warning me about the person and how terrible they are.
I should have known that wasnt going to be the only time that happened.
I should have left.
She broke up with him and started dating me.
I learned pretty quickly that if a girl cheats with you, she will cheat on you.
15.Just that we wanted different things in life.
I think we both thought the other would change their mind, but it didnt happen.
16.Him and I didnt have toO many plans.
Just I would go hang out with him for the day.
He got a call from one of his boys to go play some basketball.
I was his only ride there and back.
Im okay with this.
I told him I would sunbathe and read a book while they played.
He can have his boy time.
(He knows I love my books.)
I got totally engrossed with the book while they were playing.
Okay, no problem.
I noticed he was upset but thought it was something do to friends.
I was surprised that he left so soon.
Nope, seeing me on the grass and enjoying it made him jealous.
The book was more important than him.
I was so confused.
I bet you cant guess how that relationship ended four years later.
18.She told me in passing that she accidentally burned half of her exs kitchen while she was cooking.
Looking back, I probably should have seen that coming.
20.He hated when I wore low-cut shirts because that meant people saw some cleavage.
I should have fucking ran way earlier than I did.
Controlling behavior doesnt stop over time, it just gets worse.
21.She had anger issues.
22.Dated a guy for about a month when he finally invited me over his place.
It was his brothers house and he was crashing in the spare bedroom.
Designer clothes, you guess it…not his!
The thing is Im not even shallow.
23.Treated waitresses like trash.
Made outrageous demands of my friends, treated them like servants.
Smoked pot daily, and always tried to hide it.
24.That little details in stories didnt always add up.
Any single one could be easily dismissed or laughed off.
But they kept coming, and kept getting harder to ignore.
Turned out she was a compulsive liar.
I hope shes better now.
25.We had mismatched libidos from the start.
I convinced myself things would get better when we were married; I chalked it up to Catholic guilt.
He actually became completely disinterested in sex after we got married.
He had brushed me off several times while we were dating.
The signs were all there.
I just ignored it.
26.Guy used to attempt to get my attention with little puzzles.
Dont judge him, I was into it.
Also this was years ago at school and we didnt have all you kids fancy shit.
So he sent over a hangman.
The word was Oedipus.
I was his girlfriend for 4 years.
I dont know how I ever managed to ignore all the weird shit with his mum.
He warned me, kind of.
27.Her habitual abuse of my wallet.
Some small cash for groceries or bus fare to school or an appointment.
This would go from once a month to in the end multiple times a week.
Shed always tell some sob story till I gave in.
28.Everyone in her life/past was a terrible person and screwed her over somehow.
Yeeeah, turns out she was the problem.
Also he frequently bragged about having no empathy.
30.He liked to drink.
I always ended up looking after him like Im some kind of babysitter.
31.Little lies are really significant.
If someone lies about things that are really unimportant, its a red flag.
I had an ex lie to someone about a situation we were both in together.
I didnt say anything at the time, but I planned my exit at that moment.
Like, gets moody and passive aggressive because you wont be on the phone responding immediately all the time.
Also he proposed to me within a few months of us even knowing each other.
Were friends, now, but with a healthy level of distance.
33.My ex didnt like my dog.
And my dog didnt like him.
Looking back, that was the first red flag I dismissed.
I was appalled of course but didnt think it was a big enough deal to break up with him.
35.Boyfriend literally made a joke about how much he drinks on our first date.
Two years later, we realize hes a severe alcoholic.
36.My ex husband lied constantly and was so proud of himself for pulling it off.
Took pictures off the internet of a fender bender and claimed it was him.
Didnt want to hang out with a friend?
37.He bragged that he was going to be a great lawyer as he was good at manipulating people.
He gaslit me for well over a year whilst cheating on me.
Jokes on him, he flunked law school in the end.
38.Always had to be right even when wrong.
Correcting me on absolutely everything to the letter and being offended when I did the same.
Thought it was just competitive spirit, realized it was toxic later.
39.He always expected me to take care of things.
The Red Flag was coming home to find her drinking Vodka and grape jelly.
She had run out of mixers.
Turns out, yep, she wanted to control me.
A few months in she started talking about wanting to fix me.
I just kinda nodded and looked away.
I feel so stupid for not breaking up with him at that moment.
44.He would get mad if I hadnt seen his favorite movies.
Not just like I cant believe you havent seenmovie!!!
The same guy told me that Id be exactly his jot down of I dyed my hair black.
He told me that 3 months into already dating.
I knew it wasnt optional to comply.
45.He hated his parents.
This red flag is actually more of a grey flag based on a persons reasons for said hatred.
It did not end well.
46.I wasnt the jot down that she normally went for.
She preferred tall, white, lanky guys with blond curly hair.
Im short-ish, mixed blood brown, more stocky than lanky, and have dark wavy hair.
She continued to fawn over these preferred guys even when we were together for years.
Also, we had hobbies that didnt really overlap.
I supported her in her things but she seemed indifferent to my things.
Turns out that she never really wanted me for me.
I was an convenient escape from her family life.
She no longer needed what I represented because her family wasnt there to give her hell every day anymore.
She pulled away slowly more and more while I was left trying to figure out what was wrong.
By this point we were together for 7 years and in the middle of planning a wedding.
She started cheating on me with, who else, but a guy is fits her preferences exactly.
Also this guy was 8 years older, unemployed, no degree, no job training, and MARRIED.
She knew that he was married.
He knew that she was engaged.
They knowingly were cheating together.
She only fessed up after I caught them together.
Seven years of my life, stolen.
47.That she didnt clean up after herself.
I didnt realize this would be a lifelong annoyance but my wife literally wont clean.
She is 100% content sitting on the couch watching her shows while I clean.
She hasnt washed a dish since 2011.
48.He worked as a dispatcher at a police station.
Never saw a problem with breaking small laws like speeding because he knew the officers.
Years later he is in federal prison because he knew people and didnt think hed get in trouble.
Eventually discovered that he was a hoarder.
