You have to love yourself more than you love being in a relationship.
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Updated 1 year ago,January 16, 2024
If youre single, dont feel bad.
Your last heartbreak probably taught you something, just like these men and women fromAsk Reddit.
Max Libertine
1.People are who they are, not who you wish they would be.
Loving someone and wanting a future with them wont stop them from being a toxic person.
And the only good option with toxic people is to get them out of your life.
Even if it hurts.
2.Sometimes, their mental health is not an excuse to stay with someone.
Sometimes, you just need to let that go and it is not your responsibility to keep them healthy.
If something does happen to them, its not your fault.You cant fix someones mental health.
They can only do that themselves.
5.Dont date someone just to be dating someone because its been a while since your last real relationship.
6.It takes two to make it work.
Doesnt work that way.
The trust never comes back.
9.Relationships are not supposed to make you miserable.
They are supposed to up lift you and make you feel amazing.
10.Go with your gut feeling at the beginning.
12.Dont date someone just because theyre tall.
13.Its way harder and takes more energy to be with the wrong person than to be alone.
14.If both of you are not 100% invested in the relationship then its not going to work.
It cant be one person whos all in and the other going at 50%.
15.While its noble to fight for the relationship, its not always whats best for both of you.
Especially if you feel that the two of you arent fighting the same fight.
And despite what movies and books may tell you, love alone isnt enough.
17.If someone acts like they dont care, its because they dont care.
18.Cheating is a non-negotiable red flag.
Refusing to take responsibility is a red flag.
And the best one: you have to love yourself more than you love being in a relationship.
19.Sometimes the timing isnt right and thats not really anybodies fault.
20.I feel that asking questions and actually listening to your partner is essential for understanding each other.
21.Having different sex drives actually IS a problem
22.Nobody should beg for anybody to stay in the relationship.
Once one checks out, theyve checked out and sure you might get the pity card…
But is it worth it?
Answer: Fuck no.
23.Sometimes its just too late.
Doesnt matter how good it used to be, how much you fucking want it to work out.
Its just too late.
24.Fear of commitment can make you miss out on the most amazing opportunity for a happy life.
25.Two incomplete people cannot make a complete couple.
And you cant help those that wont help themselves.
Life got so much easier once I stopped trying to rescue everyone I dated.
26.Communication is really REALLY important.
Being open about your needs, wants and most importantly tour feelings is crucial.
27.People arent always who they say they are.
28.If attraction is not really there, you cant force it.
31.Love, or infatuation, is blind.
What you feel in the first three months doesnt truly portray the relationship or the person.
Youre still learning about each other.
Dont let yourself become completely vulnerable at the start of a relationship.
Also, if they dont want to commit, theyre not that into you.
32.Relationships are a lot of work, and love isnt enough to keep one going on its own.
Effort, patience, and communication are needed as well.
If theyre not your dream lad/ladette, stay single and wait until they are.
34.Nobody changes for another person, they change for themselves.
35.Do not attempt to date someone whose fetishes you cannot properly satisfy.
36.Trust your feelings, in general they point toward something that is important to you.
40.Christian does not equal non-abusive, respectful and kind.
41.Dont wait around for someone who isnt sure about you.
42.You cant love away the depression.
She self medicated with alcohol, and my love wasnt enough to make her stop drinking.
Just improve on yourself and get rid of bad habits.
44.When youre in an abusive situation, its VERY hard to see it.
Youre blind to all that is wrong with this person you love.
You believe this is the best that you will get, that there will be no better.
45.Dont date a drinker when youre not one yourself.
46.Everyone has a quirk.
Even you- you just might not know what it is.
Day to day survival of a relationship can depend on how you react to this quirk.
Learn to accept people for the funny little things they do.
It lasted 3 years and just got progressively…less fun until we decided to call it quits.
50.Dont put the rest of your life aside.
When they leave, you are then left with nothing.
