Growth doesn’t feel like growth.
It feels like survival.
Don’t forget to think back a year, five years, ten years and remember where you were.
ŞULE MAKAROĞLU
1.Growth doesnt feel like growth.
It feels like survival.
Dont forget to think back a year, five years, ten years and remember where you were.
2.Plan for your long term goals, but dont forget your short term health and happiness.
This will cascade and affect your long-term goals as well.
3.If something is too good to be true it probably is.
People will attempt to take advantage of you, and youll probably fall for it sometimes.
Its how you learn, dont be too down on yourself just learn from it and move on.
It will not be your fault.
5.The real world is actually really small.
6.Dont just react to things.
Take a few seconds to analyze situations and come up with conclusions.
Always be self-aware and never let people use your emotions against you.
7.You dont have to know how to do everything.
Your attitude is more important than aptitude.
8.Just because you have the money to buy something doesnt mean that you could afford it.
9.Your employer is usually a neutral partyat best.
They have you there to make money off of your labor, no more and no less.
This is a business arrangement, learn to automatically see this as the default.
you’re gonna wanna look out for your own interests.
Get a better offer elsewhere?
Similarly: Mental health days are sick days.
Dont trick yourself into believing that youre letting the team down because you gotta take care of yourself.
There are exceptions to the above and sometimes the right people or management can earn your loyalty.
Just remember that you come first.
Not customers, not co-workers, not managers.
Do the job, get paid, go home.
10.Its just a job, there will be others.
12.Zoom out for a big perspective once in awhile.
Evaluate your life periodically.
We are creatures of habit.
If you have roommates and live like slobs, you wont really notice that day in and day out.
Every once in a while, maybe every 2 months really look around.
Whats your life like?
Do you come home and watch TV or video game or read endlessly and are completely one dimensional?
Whens the last time you spent time with your mom and dad, family or longtime friends?
take a stab at balance stuff.
Make small changes so you dont go through life on autopilot.
Variety is the spice of life.
If something feels off, there is a pretty good chance that it is.
14.Legal and illegal are not the same as right and wrong.
15.If youre unhappy with your job, put tons of effort into finding a new one ASAP.
Also learn to recognize toxic work environments.
Keep up with your old hobbies and interests, and pick up new ones.
Takes classes, free ones, and pay for those you’re able to afford.
17.Dont try fitting in if it requires you to break your personal values.
There is no real point in constantly trying to avoid novel mistakes.
Instead, accept that you are human, and instead confirm to learn from you mistakes when they happen.
19.Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.
20.Its okay to cry, you are not made of steel, so dont act as if you are.
You dont live with all your friends and work with them.
But making friends definitely happens.
I would say you make fewer social connections, but a lot of them are of higher quality.
attempt to keep part of your social life separate.
22.Dont forget to take care of your physical health.
Often people get so caught up in life they forget all about working out / eating right.
Most of us end up in sedentary jobs.
You dont need to train like an Olympic athlete.
Just being active 3 times a week or something is good enough.
Maybe picking up a new sport can help you make new friends while you stay fit.
24.CONDOMS, use them.
25.Its ok to lose, and its ok to come in last place.
Life is often disappointing and we all will fall short of our goals at some point.
Learn to accept your shortcomings rather than hating them, or else youll spend your life in misery.
Instead, learn to be content with what you have and find happiness in the little things.
Too many people are unhappy because they cant cope with how life turned out.
26.Dont depend on ANYONE to do it for you (forever, anyway).
27.Dont waste your time worrying if you’ve got the option to help it.
It just drags you down and makes you weaker.
Hit the gym when you’ve got the option to, boy will it make you feel better.
Make a conscious effort to smile more.
Itll be reciprocated and it will make you feel good.
28.Be very careful of being dragged into any sort of workplace drama/politics.
That friendly coworker who is dishing you all the dirt as you learn the ropes is looking for allies.
You have no obligation to hang out with these people in a social setting.
31.Family and friends will make a run at give their input on what you should do with your life.
March to your drum.
Do what your gut tells you, and dont compromise on your values.
32.Be a champion for your own success.
No one cares as much as you do.
33.I always just tell myself Everything in moderation for everything that I do.
Too much of anything is bad for you.
34.No one cares about who you were in high school.
35.Its better to find friendship in business than business in friendship.
37.Consistently livebelowyour means save and invest the difference.
38.Be careful who you have a child with.
39.More organized = more leisure time.
Just a quick daily check of your balance and spendings will keep you out of a lot of trouble.
42.A long commute is rarely worth it.
43.Learn to think for YOURSELF.
All of your life your parents taught and promoted THEIR views on life, politics, religion, etc.
and probably also told you how wrong the other viewpoints are.
Now is the time to go, How do I feel?
What do I think?
44.Dont take criticism from someone you wouldnt take advice from.
46.Always negotiate before signing any contract.
47.Save all you could.
48.Have a budget and stick to it.
Know the difference between wanting something and needing something.
Plan for the worst and hope for the best.
53.If youre 5 minutes early then youre 5 minutes late.
(Aim to be 5-10 mins early to everything).
54.You will never yo everyone which is fine.
Take a deep breath and enjoy life.
55.Start putting in effort to see your friends.
At school/college/university you see people all the time without making any effort at all.
As soon as you leave, that is gone.
Now if you want to see those people you have to arrange it.
Dont give up, even if the gaps between seeing them become months or years.
Its also good to be honest with yourself about the friendships that arent worth this effort.
People grow apart and thats fine.
