You are putting in all of the work.
And irrespective of what you are taught and told, fairytale endings dont exist in relationships.
Dont get me wrong.
Twenty20 / @malisunshine
you might have a great relationship with someone and which can feel mystic, warm, and euphoric.
But, love is much more complicated than that.
You argue incessantly.This is a tricky one.
Twenty20 / @malisunshine
Its a norm in a relationship and arguments.
It happens to the best of couples.
Lets take a step back to understand why arguments happen in relationships.
When you argue, you genuinely are trying to get your significant other to understand your perspective and reasoning.
And while arguments or disagreements can be uncomfortable, sometimes extremely so, they can also help the relationship.
Arguments or what I like to termspirited discussionsare ok and can be healthy for your relationship.
But, this is only if you have ground rules.
If your arguments fall into the categories below, then your relationship may be headed in the wrong direction.
Arguments arenotused as a way to insult one another or as an excuse to be physically or emotionally abusive.
If this is you or your significant others MO, youre digging a well that will only get deeper.
A relationship cannot sustain itself based on one person doing all of the work.
If this is happening to you, realize that often it gets worse versus better.
They do not love you unconditionally.
Your significant other has significant problems.Here are some specific examples.
They cannot keep employment.
They are horrible with their finances.
They are addicted to drugs, alcohol or have a gambling problem.
But, inevitably, they go back to their bad habits.
They have to want to make a change.
Otherwise, your efforts are in vain.
This means they will prioritize you and your place in their life.
Figuring out how they feel about you will be the least of your worries.
Love yourself enough to know you deserve better and will be better without them in your life.
Its the first signs of control and possibly an abusive relationship.
If this is happening in your relationship, realize its not normal.
In healthy relationships, the other person understands you have existing relationships with others who are important to you.
They should respect these relationships as long as they are not damaging to your relationship with one another.
Love just makes you feel a certain way.
And if this is increasingly happening, there are probably some logical reasons why.
It may even make you want to justify the existence and continuation of the relationship.
But, your heart knows when something is or isnt right.
And your intuition will always be your better guide.
However, they justify it based on superficial reasons.
Leaving a relationship where you love someone can be one of the hardest things to do.
You allow room for someone who can give you the connection you need and most importantly deserve.
And that is something worth having!
