You don’t fall in love with people.
You fall in love with attention.
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Updated 4 years ago,August 6, 2021
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J E S U S R O C H A
You dont fall in love with people.
You fall in love with attention.It doesnt really matter if you like the person youve been seeing.
It matters iftheylikeyou, if they give you attention, if they make you feel attractive.
You care more about their feelings than your own feelings because all you want is to feel wanted.
All you want is to be romanced the way women are in the movies.
It doesnt matter who youre dating.
It matters whether they make you feel beautiful and intelligent and validated.
It doesnt matter if theres chemistry.
It doesnt matter if you have anything in common.
The second someone treats you somewhat decently, you feel like youve won the lottery.
You enjoy the chase more than the actual relationship.You like flirting.
You like playing the field.
You like theideaof this person more than you like the actual person.
You liked the person youthoughtthey were instead of who theyreallyare because you werent paying close enough attention.
Youre going after what youresupposedto want instead of what youreallywant.You date anyone who looks good on paper.
After all, you dont want to stay single.
You dont reallymindbeing alone but you mind the way it makes you look.
You mind the way others judge you over your relationship status.
Thats why youre more concerned with the way your relationship looks on social media than whether youre truly fulfilled.
You have absolutely no idea what you want.Youassumeyou know what you want because youresupposedto know what you want.
Youre supposed to have this figured out by now.
Youre supposed to be in touch with your emotions, in tune with your inner self.
But you havent really stopped to consider the question.
You havent really invested energy into figuring out what key in of person would make you happy.
You feel pressured to find someone soon.Youre getting older.
Relationships are getting more serious.
Thats why you usually date whoever happens to come along.
You dont put much thought into it.
You simply go with the flow.
If theres a chance to start a relationship, you take it, because why not?
You might as well enter a serious relationship, too.
You might as well give love a shot.
However, its okay to be picky.
Its okay to really think about what would make you happy and be more selective in the dating process.
