For some, its fleeting.
For others, its constant.
A lot of people cope by playing theas soon asgame.
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We can spend a lifetime chasing the as soon as.
Your life is unbalanced.
Balance is the key to a happy, fulfilled life.
Or a stay-at-home mom who is only with her kids and doesnt have time for friends or even herself.
We make time for what matters.
So really look at yourself and your life and determine what your priorities are.
You dont really know who you are.
You cant really know what fulfills you if you dont even have a grasp on who you are.
And a lot of people have no idea who they truly are.
And even people who do know who they are can lose touch with themselves from time to time.
Most people keep going going going and dont pause to think and reflect.
Knowing who you are will anchor you in life.
When you dont know who you are, you might feel aimless or like youre running on autopilot.
Maybe youlose yourself completelyin relationships and just mold yourself into what you think the other person wants.
One great way to discover yourself is to journal.
Look at the things that happen in your life and write out how you feel.
It doesnt have to be beautiful prose, youre not trying to be published.
Just let it rip and see what comes out.
And check in with yourself.
Ask yourself: how did that experience make me feel?
Would I want to do that again?
You have unresolved trauma.
This can be a traumatic childhood or atraumatic breakupand anything in between.
But pain doesnt go away just because it goes unacknowledged.
Maybe someone says something innocent and you feel irrationally angry.
Youre not angry at the person, these feelings come up because that person pressed on an unhealed wound.
Weve all had that experience of becoming irrationally angry over something small.
Well, thats usually your trauma talking.
When this happens, you are experiencing the past in the present.
And it can be hard to differentiate the two.
You dont pursue your passions.
You may not even know what your passions are, this ties into not knowing who you are.
Its essential to have meaningful goals and passions, and we all have them.
I remember finding mine.
It was when I wrote my first book.
I never felt more connected or more alive.
I was barely sleeping because all I wanted to do was work and write.
I didnt need sleep, I didnt need people.
I just needed to write.
So find your thing.
You dont have meaningful relationships.
When it comes to relationships, quality is so much more important than quantity.
It is crucial to surround yourself with quality people who see you and love you for who you are.
And you have to nurture those relationships.
Its so easy to get caught up in the grind of daily life, relationships take effort.
This is a major mistake a lot of people make.
Too much time on social media.
Social media can sometimes (ok, maybe often) be absolute poison for our mental health.
On the one hand, we know its not real.
As Dr. Phil says, you cant change what you dont acknowledge.
