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Updated 6 months ago,November 14, 2024
Some friendships are toxic.
And some people who used to be good influences on each other grow apart over time.
Even though you love them to pieces, they might not be what you need right now.
Sinitta Leunen
you’ve got the option to love someone while understanding why its best to walk away.
Youre allowed to have conflicting, messy feelings.
Your anger at them doesnt cancel out the love.
Both feelings can exist simultaneously.
There are so many other people in this world who love you.
This person isnt the only friend youre ever going to have.
Youre going to get close to others.
Youre going to develop inside jokes and corny nicknames with plenty of other people throughout your life.
Youre not as alone as you might feel right now.
Goodbye for now doesnt mean goodbye forever.
This person might change.
Ten years down the line, you might find each other again.
You might pick up right where you left off.
But you cant worry about the future or the past today.
it’s crucial that you worry about the moment youre existing in right now.
Ask yourself whether theyre good for you right now.
If the answer is no, then you know you have to stay away.
You know youre doing whats best for the both of you.
Your friendship still meant something.
Even though its over, that doesnt mean that the moments you spent together in the past are meaningless.
You still shared laughs.
You still have amazing memories.
you’re able to look back at your good times and be thankful you experienced them.
You dont have to associate this person with pain.
you’re free to remember the good times, too.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Its okay if youve done some things in your past that youre not proud of.
Its okay if you cringe when you look back at some of the things youve said and done.
The fact that youre able to acknowledge your wrongdoings means that you have the opportunity to change.
you could grow from this.
you might demand more from yourself in the future.
Screwing up doesnt make you a bad person, just like it doesnt make your friend a bad person.
Youre not parting ways because youre horrible people.
Its never too late to make new friends.
Unfortunately, its common for certain friendships to end as you get older and move onto new things.
You dont want to cling onto the wrong friends because you think youll be lonely without them.
Its more difficult to make friends as an adult, but still, people do it every single day.
