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Updated 8 years ago,May 18, 2017
Long distance relationships are far from a straight line.
You agree to do the distance and start packing your bags to see each other.
The first few months are filled with excitement.
Daria Nepriakhina
You learn something new about their new life during each visit.
Its like going on a first date with him over and over again.
Its starting to feel a lot like the carb free diet you agreed to go on.
1 week in and you realize what you truly had to give up.
LDRs are not for everyone, and you shouldnt feel ashamed of not lasting through it.
If youre in a long-distance relationship, are you really in a relationship or suffering through the relationship?
Daria Nepriakhina
Youre chasing him and you feel exhausted.
You dial over and over again hoping to hear a mere hello on the other end.
The lack of communication gives you anxiety.
All of a sudden he gets super defensive and frustrated.
He cant seem to provide a firm response on how you two can get closer to one another.
You toss and turn with this uncertainty every night, wondering if you bet wrong on this relationship.
You may be ready to make such commitments, but he still wants to keep it casual.
Your conversations lack intimacy and connection.
As the days go by, your conversations are feeling more and more forced and robotic.
No colorful or juicy conversations are happening that leave you dreaming of him.
Youre falling behind in your personal goals trying to maintain this.
There goes another skipped gym day, an program date missed, an important email left unanswered.
When you try and schedule calls with him around your priorities, he doesnt respect these boundaries.
Dont feel guilty for chasing your dreams and hustling to be the best version of you.
You see this relationship as emotional baggage.
Not a single call goes by without a full-blown argument about something trivial.
Hes not the person you fell in love with.
Lately, youve been butting heads on beliefs and values you used to agree on.
What used to be funny to both is now only funny to one.
Youve tried countless times to bring that umph back but its like texting on a cracked iPhone screen.
Its just not the same.
Long distance relationships are a challenge, but they are not meant to make your life a living hell.
Its an art that is practiced, cherished, and appreciated.
If its not your cup of tea, let it go.
You deserve the best.
